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Summer movies 2011

2011-07-14T15:14:00.000-07:00

Looking forward to this one.

And this one.

Love summer movies.

The road

2011-06-28T04:09:00.000-07:00

Where will I end up today ?

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Inspiration

2011-06-27T04:32:00.000-07:00

My inspiration.

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Lyndon B. Johnson National Historical Park. A nice Texas family getaway.

2011-03-12T21:46:00.000-08:00

"We wanted the LBJ Ranch to be our home for the remaining years left to us , then to be open to to all who wished to visit" - Lady Bird Johnson 1999

It's been many years since I had been to the Lyndon B. Johnson National Historic Park in Stonewall Texas. I think the last time I was there had to be in the 1970's and at that time I was about 7 or 8 years old. I vaguely remember the trip with all of my brothers and sisters. We used to pile in a station wagon and head all over the Lone Star State . My parents would pack the ice chests full of sandwiches and chips and we would eat outside on the park grounds and then continue our tour. Today was no exception it was a absolutely beautiful day in Stonewall Texas..The high temperature today was about 82 degrees which was just about right to take my family on a little adventure for the day.

We started out at the Sauer-Beckman living history farm which the kids loved .It displays rural farm life from the 1860's.

I also loved visiting LBJ's ranch including his show barn, The Johnson family cemetery, his air strip where Air Force One often landed and of course the Texas White House.

Looking for family fun? I highly recommend this trip. It was about an hour and a half drive from our home in San Antonio. We took interstate 10 to highway 87 and onward to Stonewall. My personal favorite areas to see at the park were of course Air Force One that is parked there near its runway . I also enjoyed the Texas White house. To enter LBJ's home it is only done by guided 30 minute tours with no touching and no photography once inside the house. I also enjoyed the "Friendship Stones" where different visitors went to visit the President over the years at the ranch. No guestbook here just wet cement! (see the picture above).

The final resting place of Lyndon B. Johnson and Lady Bird Johnson.

Looking faith in the eyes.

2011-03-09T13:12:00.000-08:00

I am God's servant. On Sundays I usually find myself transforming into a Eucharistic minister or Lector. The church I go to is pretty crowded. It's great to see a lot of young families. Some of us are looking for faith. Some of us are all looking to maintain the faith we have. I really think that faith has many faces. I see these faces every Sunday. The faces of faith.

The construction worker with the large callouses on his hands.
The single mother juggling two kids.
The single dads.
The homemakers
The working dads.
The retirees.
The teenagers.
The young children.
The babies.

My face.

Government Canyon State Natural hike Jan 2011

2011-01-22T19:09:00.000-08:00

Took my Canon Rebel to Government Canyon State Natural Area .I am a writer and amateur photographer. If you follow my blog you will see that I mainly focus on family issues and finding ways to have fun with my family. I still have tons to learn about photography but I kind of like it. There are some technical issues that I am working through but so far so good. I figured Government Canyon State Natural Area in San Antonio Texas would be the perfect place for my Rebel. It was the perfect setting for my little family. Sun and a cool breeze. My little ones are actually at that age where they are able to keep up with us during the hike. South Bluff Spur was definitely rocky but my kids did fine. We took plenty of snacks for them and water. Of course Government Canyon is pretty any time of year. This day almost seemed to be too perfect.

The weather was nice it at about 62 degrees. It was a bit nippy but the family enjoyed it.There was some construction there with the visitors center being remodeled. But who is there to visit the buildings? I was there to hike with my family. The picture directly below is the path that leads to the back country trails.

Take your kids to Government Canyon State Natural area. Your kids are guaranteed to have a great time. Don't forget your camera.

Be an encourager

2011-01-18T19:55:00.000-08:00

Encouragement is a gift.

Encouragement creates energy.

Encouragement lasts a lifetime and can be life -changing.

Encouragement motivates positive behavior.

Encouragement is often the most effective form of motivation.

Encouragement most often comes from listening than talking.

Encouragement is more effective than criticism.

Encouragement can be as simple as a smile.

Encourage everyone you know and everyone you meet.

Bruce and Stan
Adapted from "God is in the small stuff."

Where did the holidays go?

2011-01-09T15:28:00.000-08:00

I swear the holidays went by like a blur. Every year I think the holidays will go by so slow and they always go by so fast. I love all of the holiday music as well as all of the holiday sounds. Oh well, till next year. Hope you all have a great 2011.

Keeping it flowing

2010-11-14T15:46:00.000-08:00

Been a busy 2010 so far . I know we are coming to the end of a year that has been pretty good to me and my family. Let's see , one job came to a end and another one began. The kids are growing up before my eyes. My brothers and sisters have some changes in their lives as well. I have said it over and over again that job change is good. I have always had good luck when it comes to changing jobs or losing a job. I usually bounce back right away or find a new job while my current job is coming to an end.

My previous company that I worked for got bought out in the middle of September and I started my new job with one of the best companies in the world. I feel very lucky and blessed that God is always watching out for me and my family. I have repeatedly asked why God has a special interest in my well being . I posed this question to my parents and to a family friend . I was told not to question God's love for each one of us so I have never brought that question up anymore. I guess it was more curiosity more than anything else. I should know the answer.

I need to get back to blogging . With my new job it has been tough. I work five days a week and weekends off. The only bad thing about starting a new job is that there is no vacation time. I could use a good two weeks off right now! Just wanted to touch base and let you know what I have been up to. Look for new blog posts through the end of this year and into next year.

Back to school 2010

2010-08-24T20:04:00.000-07:00

It's that time of year !

Wishing it was fall weather

2010-08-19T15:49:00.000-07:00

I wish the weather was cooler I am tired of the Texas heat!!!!

I wish I was at Lost Maples State Park. Can we fast forward a couple of months?

I'll keep wishing for cooler weather.

Faith

2010-08-08T19:55:00.000-07:00

There has been so much going on at work that I have relied heavily on prayer and my faith. My company was sold and I was not going to be moving on with the parent company. Only a handful of us were selected and I was forced to find another job. I believe having a strong support system and having a strong faith in God has helped me immensely. I know that if I put my trust in God and keep a strong dialogue with him he will provide for me and my family.

Faith means different things to so many people. Here are some notable quotes on faith:

Take the first step in faith.
You don't have to see the whole staircase,
just take the first step.
- Martin Luther King Jr

The strengthening of faith comes through
staying with it in the hour of trial.
- Catherine Marshall

For the believer there is no question,
for the nonbeliever there is no answer.
-Anonymous

The light of God surrounds me,
The love of God enfolds me,
The power of God protects me,
The presence of God watches over me.
-Prayer card

Faith never knows where it is being led,
but it loves and knows the one who is leading.
-Oswald Chambers

I will always keep the faith. Will you?

One chapter closes and a new one begins

2010-07-23T15:12:00.000-07:00

I recently received the news that my job was going to end in September. I have been with this company eight years this past May. I have never really been without a job in the past 14 years, I have always been employed. I think I have a pretty good work ethic. I work hard, I work weekends when necessary, I work overtime when it calls for that. I travel .

When I got the news last week that I was not going to be offered a job with the new company I ran through all of the emotions. We are summoned to the conference room where the news was received. As I glanced around the conference room I see the look of battered troops. I was included. We knew two years ago that this day would come. Our company was always on the selling block . Maybe we forgot about it. Maybe we thought that a sale was impossible during these tough economic times. I was feeling all of these emotions, fear, relief, self -worth and sadness. I know the people in the room were feeling the same range of emotions too. I could see it.

According to About.com some of the things you can do before a layoff hits:

1. Prepare for a layoff by having your resume ready.
2. Prepare for a layoff by keeping your network alive.
3. Prepare for a layoff by sharpening your skills.
4. Prepare for a layoff by taking time for yourself.
5. Prepare for a layoff by thinking about a career change.

I am prepared with my resume. It is polished and ready. I think there is always a silver lining behind everything. Being laid off in a few weeks will allow me to spend some valuable time with my family, specifically my wife and kids. I worked a lot of weekends and I missed several events and family functions. I struggled finding the perfect work-life balance if there is such a thing anymore. I worked hard for my family. I did it for them. I look forward to watching my kindergartner take her first steps into public education. I will be there for that. I will also be there to pick her up after school and asking how her first day was. I will also be able to meet her for lunch on her first day of school.

I will keep you posted on my journey.

Summer doldrums

2010-07-15T05:38:00.001-07:00

Summer has been good for the kids but a bit unpredictable for me. It's also been the summer of uncertainty for me with the job market. Companies get bought and sold. My company is not immune to this. My kids have been pretty oblivious to the surrounding job market. I don't really expect them to know what's going on with the job market because they are kids.

I think parents should not get kids involved with their problems especially the job market. I know when I was a kid my dad went through a few job changes but I always knew things were going to be fine and I was always confident when it came to my dad and his abilities.I know my girls are confident with whatever endeavor I choose. Kids have the most important job of all, just being kids and having fun.

I know things will be looking up. They always have a way of turning around. One door closes another one opens . I will keep you posted .

God answers

2010-07-06T14:35:00.000-07:00

You say : It is impossible.
God says : All things are possible .

You say: I'm too tired.
God says: I will give you rest .

You say : Nobody really loves me.
God says: I love you.

You say: I can't figure things out.
God says: I will direct your steps

You say: I can't do it.
God says: You can do all things.

You say: I'm not able.
God says: I am able .

You say: I am not worth it.
God says: It will be worth it.

You says: I can't forgive myself.
God says: I forgive you.

You say: I can't manage.
God says : I will supply all your needs.

You say: I'm afraid.
God says: I have not given you a spirit of fear.

You say: I'm always worried and frustrated .
God says: Cast all of your cares on me.

You say ; I don't have enough faith .
God says: I've given everyone a measure of faith .

You say: I'm not smart enough.
God says: I give you wisdom.

You say: I feel all alone.
God says: I will never leave you or forsake you.

*** Author unknown***

You cause others to stumble when

2010-07-04T17:43:00.000-07:00

1. You allow negativity to grow .

2. You compromise your integrity .

3. You break your promises.

4. You speak before thinking.

5. You act out of greed or selfishness.

6. You refuse to forgive.

7. You twist the truth.

8. You justify your behavior.

9. You hurt others.

10.You leave God out of your decisions.

Dr Steve Stephens
Author and Seminar Speaker

Changes

2010-06-26T18:08:00.000-07:00

Changes are on the way. In life and in the business world changes are a daily occurence. There are a couple of cliche's that come to mind when I think of changes.

1. Change is good.
2. One door closes another one
opens.

Let's take the first one.

Change is good. In my experience this has always been a good thing. I had a previous job that ended many years ago and that led to another job that had a higher salary.

Let's take the second one.

One door closes another one opens. This is true. It's obvious when one door closes opportunities should open up. We have the power to create these opportunities. Sometimes we are lucky enough to have opportunites come looking for us.

What I always tell myself is that nothing is forever. All good things come to an end at some point.

Here's to changes past, present and future.

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On being a father

2010-06-08T17:03:00.001-07:00

Here is a little list that my dad put together on what constitutes fatherhood. It is all so true. Sometimes I find myself searching for my own list or rewriting the list that I have. Fatherhood is not easy as you all know. I am still learning things everyday from my daughters. I think they are redefining what fatherhood should be for me. What I tell everyone is that God put me on earth for my daughters just like God put my parents on earth for me and my brothers and sisters. That is my only mission just to raise my daughters into fine women . Here is the list.

A father must be able to carry the world on his shoulders.

Must be able to solve problems.

Serve as a confidant on the spur of the moment.

Act as a consultant when called upon for advice.

Serve as financial planner.

Lends assistance when needed.

Inject common sense into discussions that do not make sense.

Attempt to serve as corporate CEO for the family.

Directs the family in faith and hope..

Serves as business advisor.

When the chips are down, father knows best.

Believes in giving away what he has in order for his children to be happy.

Sacrifices are part of the norm.

Rides an emotional roller coaster on a daily basis..

Loves his family even though it might not seem like it.

A father expects nothing in return and is a father unconditionally.

Whet else can a father do? Just call him, and you’ll find out that fathers can do any thing.

A letter to my daughters about BP Petroleum

2010-06-06T17:03:00.000-07:00

Dear daughters,

As you can see from the pictures above BP Petroleum has created a ecological disaster. I'm not sure the reasons behind the explosion. There has been rumors of safety shortcuts, I really don't know. I do know that good men were lost and marine animals are suffering. There are pictures of birds and crabs covered in oil. There are dead dolphins coming to shore.

Drilling companies are always in search of oil for a profit. BP Petroleum was in the Gulf of Mexico for that same reason. Men make mistakes for several reasons. This is a big mistake that can be attributed to man. What are we going to do about it? BP Petroleum is taking the lead and trying to correct the situation along with the U.S government. I just know that Americans in this area are suffering because their livelihood has been taken away. It will be years before it is cleaned up. There are even reports that the oil is drifting to Florida and is there now. I just hope that we can visit there when everything is clean. I would love for you to run your little feet on the nice beaches in the Gulf Coast one day.

Love your Dad

Letting my little ones experience Spectrum health club

2010-05-30T16:39:00.000-07:00

Sundays are usually set aside for me to spend quality time with my daughters.My wife usually works on Sundays which is fine because I usually have to go into work on Saturdays. We usually wake up and go to church and then off to eat lunch with my parents. Today I had the day planned out . I wanted to take them to the gym with me. I did not know that the kids club at Spectrum was going to be closed so I was forced to take care of them while I worked out.

I had planned on taking my sixth grader to run with me while my two younger daughters played in the kids club. I asked the guy at the front desk if the kids could play on the Internet there where I could watch them and run at the same time. I was able to squeeze in a 5k run before I was forced to cut my run short and tend to my little ones who were roaming throughout Spectrum health club.

I headed over to the weights while my sixth grader finished her run on the treadmill. Is this such a bad thing letting my little ones roam the Spectrum health club ? They were not getting any dirty looks from any other members. After all they were dressed kind of cute and they look like twins. I figure that rather than have the kids sitting at home, they can see people being active by running and working out on the weights. I want to plant the seed early with all of my daughters that exercise and staying active is important in life.

According to kids health.org there are many benefits of exercise. Everyone can benefit from regular exercise. Kids who are active will:

•have stronger muscles and bones

•have a leaner body because exercise helps control body fat

•be less likely to become overweight

•decrease the risk of developing type 2 diabetes

•possibly lower blood pressure and blood cholesterol levels

•have a better outlook on life

Besides enjoying the health benefits of regular exercise, kids who are physically fit sleep better and are better able to handle physical and emotional challenges — from running to catch a bus to studying for a test.

If you can keep the kids near you while you work out. I encourage the experience for kids. Lets get all the kids active and fit as early as possible.

A picture is worth a thousand words

2010-05-20T20:47:00.000-07:00

A little Easter fun! I love this picture . Two of my daughters getting a little carried away.

So proud

2010-05-20T20:21:00.000-07:00

You know I have not been to this spot in a long time. Just thinking how I am missing downtown San Antonio. I will make back here soon. So proud of the riverwalk.

Family challenges

2010-05-16T17:28:00.000-07:00

“Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are.” -Bernice Johnson Reagon

Life is full of challenges . In today's society there are several challenges that a family can face. Two of the main challenges facing families are financial and medical. Sometimes financial situations can paralyze a family such as job loss causing bills to fall behind. Job loss can also have an effect on medical conditions because if there is no job there is no medical insurance.

These challenges are supposed to help discover who you are. If you have the drive and confidence you can find a job right away. Once you land the job you automatically can address the medical situations with insurance.

I will be prepared if I ever fall into unemployment. If I know that day is coming I will have my resume armed and ready to fire. I think a lot of families are not prepared and fall into the unemployment ranks a little longer than expected.

Once unemployment happens stay calm , cool and collected. Even take a few days to enjoy your family. Just remember that your family is counting on you.

Using proper gym etiquette

2010-05-08T21:42:00.000-07:00

I have been working out since early January. As mentioned in one of my Facebook posts I had an encounter at the gym. I started excising on my doctor's advice in order to balance out my cholesterol. I had just jumped on the treadmill when I get tapped on the shoulder by a girl, "Me and my girlfriend would like to use that treadmill so we can run together." There was another treadmill available right next to the treadmill I was using, so they would have been able to run together. I gladly obliged since I was on the treadmill less than a minute. I figured it was the adult thing to do, although some of my friends and colleagues gave me some mixed reviews on my actions.

According to Ask men .com they have a list on "How to master gym etiquette."

Handling equipment

The main reason we go to the gym is to use the sophisticated gear. While exercises can be performed at home, it's often easier to rely on machines that were specifically designed for the sole purpose of making us look better. Are you using all the equipment adequately?

Return the weights
Whenever you use dumbbells or plates, be considerate enough to put them back where they belong when you're done. The other gym members are here to train, not to participate in a scavenger hunt.

Don't hog machines
A gym being a community of sorts, sharing is mandatory. Do your sets the way you have them planned, training efficiently. Rest, repeat, and move on. Should you be doing supersets, notify the others and let them use the machine while you're busy elsewhere.

Wipe the machines
Can you imagine walking to a machine and finding it covered with the previous guy's sweat? You want to avoid being that guy. If you happen to drip all over a piece of equipment, wipe it down using the disinfectant provided by the gym. Also, use a towel to separate yourself from the machine while you make use of it.

Limit yourself
Working out the cardiovascular system, people are expected to spend 20 to 30 minutes on a machine. Try not exceeding that time limit and let other users benefit from the equipment. If no one is waiting for your spot, feel free to keep going. Whenever applicable, put your name on a reservation list.

Don't drop the weights
While a gym is not a church, do try to respect the peace and quiet of your fellow members. Don't drop weights from a high elevation for no reason. You certainly don't want the elderly gentlemen on the treadmill to slip and fall because he thinks Armageddon is here.

Proper behavior

Once you know how to handle the equipment, you need to hone your social skills. There are things you must and must not do to be regarded as a member the others won't try to dodge.

Don't pressure users
One thing you don't want to do is constantly ask people if they've finished using a machine when they're obviously still exercising on it. Wait for them to stop before asking. Don't tap your foot impatiently while waiting either.

Spot those who need it
You may be deemed annoying if you start going around asking everyone if they need a spot, monopolizing their time. If you see someone who is in dire need of a spot, risking injury without one, only then should you offer your services. Furthermore, when you do spot someone, make sure you're not the one doing all the lifting and that you can handle the weight. The latter is especially important since, if you're not strong enough, your spot will be useless and dangerous for the weightlifter.

Don't offer your advice to others
You might have a Ph.D. in physical training from Harvard with specialized experience with the national Olympic team, but no one cares. The advice you give should be limited to when you notice someone who's going to hurt himself. Keep in mind that you may not be the most knowledgeable person in the room. If you feel compelled to critique someone's training method, do so in a constructive manner, being polite and acknowledging what they're doing right first.

Talk sparingly
A gym isn't a social club; you're not there to shoot the breeze with its members. Conversations should be kept brief and limited to resting periods in between sets. These short discussions must be held out of the way so people can train without interruption. In addition, don't initiate conversations with people wearing headphones; they obviously don't feel chatty. Finally, while you're taking a break, don't sit on a machine -- others may want to use it.

Don't hit on every babe
It's true that a gym is one of the best pick up spots, but that doesn't give you a hunting license. Don't go around asking every woman out. They became members to get fit, not to be hit on by every dude in the room. In the same vein, try to avoid staring at those beautiful women in skimpy clothing. They know they're hot and they don't need your ogling them to figure it out. If one of them happens to catch you staring, smiling, look away, and move on.

Common courtesy

No cell phones
As with all public places, unless you're waiting for an important call, it's recommended that you turn off your mobile phone at the gym. As well, bringing your phone into the locker room and using it will make other guys feel uncomfortable; especially considering the latest models have integrated cameras and, well, nobody wants their butt being the main attraction on a sketchy website.

Pick up after yourself
Leave your training space as clean as the way you found it. Don't leave any food wrappers, water bottles, towels, or any other items behind. Keep your locker clean, orderly, and don't leave anything lying around for the next guy. Your membership fee is for use of the apparatus; it's not a maid service.

Dress appropriately
Don't wear torn clothing, but don't wear a tuxedo either. Go for a T-shirt instead of a tank top as to circumvent sweat overtly running onto the machine. Stay away from jeans; shorts or track pants are a much better choice.

Don't grunt loudly
Unless you have tiger genes, try to minimize your yelling while exercising. Of course, it's natural to emit little noises when doing strenuous lifts, but remember that the others around you are concentrating on their own work out and don't need to hear "the loud guy" screaming for attention.

Smell good
Exercising makes you sweat and perspiration causes body odor. Can you see in your mind's eye how badly it would stink if no one at the gym did something about it? Arm yourself with an effective deodorant and use it adequately. However, don't douse yourself with cologne; overcompensation can be just as unpleasant for fellow members.

Be considerate of the water fountain
A water fountain's purpose is to drink, not spit or throw away your gum. Moreover, if there's a huge lineup at the water fountain, don't be disrespectful of others by filling your huge water bottle.

No foul language
As with any other social venue, be respectful of your surroundings and of the fact that people of all ages might be present on the premises. Don't use foul language or insult people who are less proficient in their training.

Don't walk in front of mirrors
Well, you can walk in front of mirrors as long as you don't pass in front of someone who is using it to get their stance right. By the same token, if you're looking at yourself in a mirror from across the room, don't get mad if someone passes in front of you. If you must use a mirror, it's better to stand close to it so that your actions are unambiguous to the rest of the crowd.

Texas blogger Rennywriter answers your questions

2010-05-04T17:21:00.000-07:00

I thought it would be fun to answer some questions for my audience. I have always been fascinated with celebrity questions you find in back of magazines. Since I have been in a goofy mood all week, This post is all about fun!!!!

Name: Rene R Arguello
Company: Rennywriter Blog URL http : //http://www.rennywriter.blogspot.com/

Why did you start blogging? I started blogging as a way to relieve stress after the busy work day. I also blog because I discovered my love for writing while in college. I usually have time to write at night when my wife is putting the kids to sleep. That hour is my time to blog. I also love the creative process of writing a post from when the idea first pops in my head and then is formed on my blog.

What is the main goal of your blog? I am not sure if I have a niche. If I do have a niche it would be in regards to the nuclear family. It would be about raising my daughters the best way I know how. I come from a large family with a traditional family and religious background. I am trying to pass these traditions and values to my daughters.I also love writing about business and tech news. So I would have to say the niche of my blog is a little of everything.

How has your life changed growing up in a household of women? Well... I come from a family of six brothers and three sisters . Growing up my brothers dominated our household. It was like we were a basketball team and our rooms were actually locker rooms. Clothes scattered everywhere, food left in the room. You name the dirty piece of clothing or the most common candy wrapper and you could find it in our room. My daughters are no different! As a man in a female dominated household I just have to watch what I wear. My wife and daughters also know my habits and also know when I need some alone time too.

Is there anything you won't eat? No I actually love food . I will try everything .

Could you please tell me what type of tattoos you have and their meanings? I have no tattoos at this time but I would like to get one of my daughters and put it over my heart. I have a picture of them that would be the perfect tattoo. Including my wife, my daughters are the most important people to me on the planet. I would be proud to wear them over my heart. I would love for Kat Von D of LA Ink to do it for me (wishful thinking!)

What is your idea of fun or relaxation on your time off ? My wife works at a state park here in Texas so I find myself going on hikes with my daughters. I also like to blog for relaxation. I also started running and exercising in January. I find exercising very soothing and rewarding. Also hanging out with mom and dad along with my brothers and sisters.

You turned 46 a few weeks ago. How are you dealing with it? I am doing great. No big deal. I feel like I am in my early 30's . I guess my daughters keep me young. I find myself playing and kidding around with them a lot . They love it.

Do you have a secret nickname? As a kid playing baseball my coach would call me Renny. My mom called me Birdie. I have also been called other names that I wont mention here ! (just kidding)

Are you and your wife planning to have more kids? No. We are done.

What movie scares you? The fourth kind . That is some scary stuff right there! Any movie having to do with little green (gray) men scares the crap out of me.

5 business lessons learned from the TV show "Undercover Boss"

2010-05-02T20:41:00.000-07:00

According to Inc magazine, Undercover Boss was one of this year’s reality show standouts, beloved by viewers for the dose of schadenfreude they’d get by seeing executives fail at attempting the basics that make their companies tick. Undercover Boss took CEOs (such as 7-Eleven's Joe DePinto, above) out of their corner offices and planted them as entry-level grunts in their own business. What ensued needn’t just be couch-potato fuel, though: We’ve compiled some notes so you can avoid these CEOs’ mistakes.

Do sweat the small stuff

Joe DePinto, a West Point graduate who’s now the CEO of 7-Eleven, knows how to run a $13 billion company. But brewing coffee without overflowing the dispenser? Not so much. In investigating exactly how the 7-Eleven in Shirley, New York, manages to sell 2,500 cups of coffee a day, DePinto managed to mix up flavor batches and make a mess. But he took a lesson from middle-aged coffee-maker Dolores, whose precise brewing combined with impeccable customer service (she seemed to know the name of every person who entered the door) kept caffeine fiends coming back day after day.

Lesson: Pay attention to detail – and to your regular customers – and you will be rewarded with repeat business.

Even small jobs require confidence

It seems obvious: a CEO should intimately know – and ostensibly enjoy – the product or service they sell. On the episode about Churchill Downs, the racing park that’s part of the largest horse-racing business in the world, that wasn’t quite so for COO Bill Carstanjen. When he went out dressed as a new hire to work with a horse trainer, it was readily apparent he was afraid of feeding the horses. And though he learned how to play the "Call to Post" on the bugle, he discovered he was terrified of playing in front of a crowd.

Lesson: Inspiring confidence takes confidence especially in a highly-competitive environment.

Keep your customer service skills sharp

Rick Arquilla, president and COO of Roto-Rooter, got his hands dirty in an episode of Undercover Boss. After cleaning some drains like a pro, he was tasked with working the phones at a dispatch call center. He struggled, in part because the call system is color-coded and Arquilla is colorblind. That's no fault of his, but his phone skills also leave a lot to be desired – he sounded pushy and impatient when he talked to a customer.

Lesson: Your interactions with customers over the phone are deceptively difficult to get right, and require patience and foolproof systems.

Enforce high standards

Coby Brooks was not ready to meet Jimbo. He was the manager of a Hooters restaurant to which CEO Brooks was assigned, and he liked to "inspect" female employees in a leering fashion. Brooks, who spoke with pride about his company’s donations to breast cancer research, was not amused. "The things I saw today," he said on the show, "were inappropriate. They were wrong and I don’t want any part of it."

Lesson: Even if your company image thrives on being a bit racy, employees must abide by clear standards set by human resources regarding harassment.

Find our what goals mean in human terms

When Chris McCann, president of 1-800-Flowers and the younger brother of CEO Jim McCann, went undercover in his own company, it was with the aim of testing how well he understood the business. He suspected that the company needed to do better at connecting with its workers. And he was correct. For instance, when he struggled to keep up with his task at the chocolate bonbon conveyer belt, he struggled and lagged behind. An employee remained calm, telling him that the hefty goals are set by men who never visit the factory.

Lesson: Seek input from – and get to know – your front-line workers.

Thank you Inc Magazine .

The mystery solved (hopefully?)

2010-04-23T14:32:00.000-07:00

I was asked to write a letter to my oldest daughter Brianna a couple of weeks ago. My ex wanted me to write to her in preparation for a retreat she attended. She is in middle school and even though I eventually would split from Valerie (her mom) I still saw Brianna every other weekend. I would go on to marry a girl with a name that had the same letter in the alphabet "V" ( Something about me and women whose name start with the letter V!) Veronica and I have three daughters but that is a story in itself. I have to refer you to some of my early blog posts!

I avoided writing about this topic for a while. I have always wanted to write about my feelings about my oldest daughter. I know the circumstances of my breakup with Valerie (her mom) were a little out of the ordinary. This "bad breakup" kept my defenses up for a long time. It was not only until recently that I was able to let my guard down on this topic and express my true feelings for Brianna in my letter. In my letter to Brianna I expressed how much of a beautiful girl she is and how much she looks like me. I also told her how my work schedule interfered with me getting to spend more time with her. I also told her that I loved her very much and that I hoped that my schedule in the future would allow us to spend more time together.

At the retreat the priest and Brianna read my letter together. When Brianna came home from the retreat she told my ex that I am still a bit of a mystery to her. As mentioned earlier I have spent time with Brianna ever since she was a baby. She comes over on weekends and spends Saturdays and Sundays with us. I work almost every Saturday so it is hard for me to spend a lot of time with her. On Sundays when I am home my two little daughters take up a majority of my time and demand attention. But Brianna I promise that I will be spending more one on one time with you and hopefully together we can unlock the mystery of your daddy as soon as possible..

NBA Playoffs : Go Spurs Go !

2010-04-19T19:31:00.000-07:00

It's playoff time. Good luck to the silver and black !

Balancing Twitter and Facebook with family life

2010-04-13T14:15:00.000-07:00

I read an article today about Twittering and Facebooking and the effects it is having on family life. I know that after a hard day at work parents sit at their home computer or on their phone and just Twitter and Facebook away. It is easy to get caught up and Twitter  about a interesting article or chat on Facebook with a friend or coworker.

I know a lot of parents are guilty of spending too much time on social media. After a stressful day at work I sometimes find myself wanting to get on Facebook  or Twitter and see what is going on with the people I follow or I have friended. How does this affect children who long for their parent's affection? How many hours have been lost on Facebook or Twitter when these hours can be spent with their children? To find out if you are addicted to Social Media ask yourself these questions.

1. Do you spend more time on Social Media than your family?
2. Do you have more friends on Facebook or Twitter than in real life?
3. Do you hear Direct Message pings when you lay down to bed or use the blow dryer and run to your computer to answer?
4. Do you put an "@" symbol in front of someone's name when directing a message to them in emails?
5. You panic when your favorite Social Media site goes down.
6. You give other guys/girls your social network URL instead of your phone #.
7. You lie about the amount of time you spend on Social Media.
8. Have you ever pondered starting a social network for people that have a problematic addiction to   social networking?
9. Do you get excited when you have more friends on a social network than you did last week despite the fact that you'll probably never talk to them?
10. You check your social network email first thing in the morning, at lunch, and before bedtime without fail?
11. Upon meeting people in a real-life social situation you ask them if they are on your favorite social network.
12. You go to Digg , Reddit, Yahoo ! Buzz or another social news site for your news as opposed to CNN , WSJ , NYT or other traditional news sites.
13. You belong to more Social Media sites than extracurricular organizations.

I usually "Tweet" or "Facebook" after the kids are asleep. I have some alone time for about an hour when my wife is putting the kids to sleep. That is the only time I get into social media. I might also do a blog post during this alone time. Hopefully parents across the U.S will put away the phone or log off the home computer and give your kids the attention they deserve.

How do you balance social media and family time?

Fiesta San Antonio!

2010-04-11T19:32:00.000-07:00

Fiesta week in San Antonio is upon us. It is that time again, San Antonio's celebration occurs every April. There are so many events planned this year and I promise to provide a schedule for some of the favorite events. But first, my thoughts on Fiesta San Antonio . I have been attending Fiesta week ever since I was a boy. I have many great memories of the Battle of Flowers parade, the Fiesta Flambeau parade,St. Mary's University Oyster bake and the King William Fair. I will always remember the sounds, the sights, the smells of Fiesta. There are crowds galore. There is plenty of pushing, spilling and spending. (I would wear old clothes and tennis shoes for sure!) And the other thing, Fiesta week always falls on my birthday!

Fiesta Favorites

A Night in Old San Antonio (NIOSA)
Battle of Flowers Parade
Fiesta Carnival
Fiesta Flambeau Parade
Fiesta Oyster Bake
Fiesta Fantasias at Market Square
Texas Cavaliers River Parade

A Night in Old San Antonio (NIOSA)

April 20, 5:30pm-10:30pm
April 21, 5:30pm-10:30pm
April 22, 5:30pm-10:30pm
April 23, 5:30pm-10:30pm
La Villita

Battle of Flowers Parade
April 23, 12:45pm-4:00pm
Parade Route

Fiesta Carnival
April 14, 5:00pm-11:00pm
April 15, 6:00pm-10:00pm
April 16, 6:00pm-12:00am
April 17, 11:00am-12:00am
April 18, 12:00pm-11:00pm
April 19, 6:00pm-11:00pm
April 19, 6:00pm-11:00pm
April 20, 6:00pm-11:00pm
April 21, 5:00pm-11:00pm
April 22, 5:00pm-11:00pm
April 23, 12:00pm-12:00am
April 24, 11:00am-12:00am
April 25, 12:00pm-11:00pm
Alamodome Parking Lot C
100 Montana

Fiesta Flambeau Parade
April 24, 7:45pm-11:00pm
Parade Route

Fiesta Oyster Bake
April 16, 5:00pm-11:00pm
April 17, 11:00am-11:00pm
St. Mary's University Campus
One Camino Santa Maria

Fiestas Fantasias at Market Square
April 16, 10:00am-12:00am
April 17, 10:00am-12:00am
April 18, 10:00am-12:00am
April 19, 10:00am-12:00am
April 20, 10:00am-12:00am
April 21, 10:00am-12:00am
April 22, 10:00am-12:00am
April 23, 10:00am-12:00am
April 24, 10:00am-12:00am
April 25, 10:00am-12:00am
Market Square 514 West Commerce St

Texas Cavaliers River Parade
April 19, 7:30pm-9:30pm
San Antonio River Walk

Be Safe!!!!

Work life balance

2010-04-07T19:36:00.000-07:00

I have been wondering if there is such a thing as a work life balance. I know in today's world it is very tough to have such a balance. A lot of companies talk about how their companies strive for the perfect work life balance for it's employees and actually are sincere about it. In the end a lot of employees are still trying to chase the perfect work life scenario. According to the former head of General Electric Jack Welch in a Wall Street Journal article from July 2009, ""There's no such thing as work-life balance," Mr. Welch told the Society for Human Resource Management's annual conference in New Orleans on June 28. "There are work-life choices, and you make them, and they have consequences." He also went on to say " you could be passed over for promotions if you are not there in the clutch."

I can justify working long hours and Saturday. The only way I can justify this is that I am doing it for my family. When I look around at the things I have, none of this would be possible without a good paying job which takes a lot of commitment and dedication. I know things around me are materialistic and that is not what matters to me. A healthy family is all that matters to me.

According to Web MD there are 5 tips for a better work life balance :

1. Figure out what really matters in your life -The important point here is to figure out what you want your priorities to be, not what you think they should be.

2. Drop unnecessary activities -By making a concrete list of what really matters to you, you may discover you're devoting too much time to activities that aren't a priority, and you can adjust your schedule accordingly.

3. Protect your private time -You would probably think twice before skipping out on work, a parent-teacher conference, or a doctor's appointment. Your private time deserves the same respect.

4. Accept help to balance your life-Allow yourself to rely on your partner, family members, or friends -- anyone who can watch the kids or run an errand while you focus on other top priorities.

5. Plan fun and relaxation- Fun and relaxation are an essential part of living a well-balanced life

Do you have a good work life balance?

Glee gone wild!!!!!

2010-04-02T13:03:00.000-07:00

Check out the April cover of Rolling Stone Magazine. Glee is back . New episodes return April 13th.
There are a lot of questions left unanswered from last season. It is a show that my family can sit down and watch (and sing to). I promised my daughters I would do a post on my blog about Glee. Some questions.....

1. Will and Sue. Can they co-exist?
2. Puck and Finn. Can they be best friends again?
3. Can New Directions defeat Vocal Adrenaline?
4. What about Quinn and her pregnancy. Has she decided to keep the baby?
5. What about the romance between Rachel and Finn?
6. What about Will and his wife separating?

There is supposed to be some great music this season and other surprises. I hear Vocal Adrenaline has beefed itself up too. Watch out New Directions!!!!! Anyway, here is the cover. Enjoy.

Losing my carpool buddy to kindergarten.

2010-03-31T21:06:00.000-07:00

As kinder-round up approaches this April I am a bit saddened by the loss of my constant morning companion and carpool buddy Sofie. Let me clarify. I am losing her to the public school system. She has been with me for the past five years. She has had to be flexible with the surrounding economic crisis of the past couple of years. She was enrolled at the school across the highway from my old office. I had to withdraw her from that school when my job relocated. I hated to withdraw her because it was such a good school.

The new office that I relocated to has a preschool associated with the company. Sofie adjusted to this new preschool with ease and made plenty of new friends. She has been there close to two years. As this school year closes I am saddened that I will not have a little one to ride with me each morning. I will not have a little one to ask me a lot of questions every morning like:

Will I get bigger?
What are those cows doing?
Can we stop by McDonald's for a drink?
When will I go to the big school?
The kids in my class are mean to me. Why?
I'm scared of going to the big school. Can I stay where I am at?

I will miss my carpool buddy. I know I will have her spirit with me every morning in the car with me. In the mean time. I still have a couple of months before we part ways and she goes on to higher learning . I know she will grow into the "big girl" that I know she can be. She will probably be one of the oldest kids in kindergarten since she missed the cut off last year by a couple of weeks. She will do great in school. I know it. As my eyes start to swell and a couple of tears start to flow I just look forward to seeing her and the rest of my daughters after work. I look forward to meeting her and Mia for lunch on my days off. I look forward to helping Sofie with her 'big school " homework. I look forward to going with her on her first field trip and holding her hand. Below are her favorite flowers. We have been seeing lots of these on our commute to work.

The life and times of a barrio dog- forward (sneek peek)

2010-03-28T15:21:00.000-07:00

Here is the forward to the book I am helping my dad write tentatively titled "The life and times of a barrio dog." This is a rough draft. Hopefully I can give you all more excerpts of his book in the future.

“Life is without meaning. You bring the meaning to it. The meaning of life is whatever you ascribe it to be. Being alive is the meaning.” Joseph Campbell

My life at this point seems pretty ordinary. I’m not sure if my life has even started yet. My life is a series of calculations. Every situation I enter is calculated ahead of time to give me the desired outcome. I guess you can say I am cheating myself of life. I know life is very unpredictable and can be very overwhelming. I know there are setbacks and victories. I have had my share of both. Half of my life is gone already and I know there is a lot out there for me to experience. By my age my dad had already lived a full and exciting life.

My dad grew up in the roughest part of San Antonio which is in the deep westside of the city. There is nothing luxurious about living in the westside of San Antonio in the 1950's. It was a constant struggle back then. It was a struggle to pay the bills and put food on the table with whatever means necessary. You did what you had to in order to stay alive. There was no fluffy outdoor malls back then. I have grown up in the safe suburbs of far Northwest San Antonio. My dad held several minimum wage jobs with just a GED education supporting a family of nine. It was not until later that he had time to continue his college studies. He later became self employed and then moved on to the corporate world. I have worked a few minimum wage jobs while in college obtaining my degree and have really worked in one industry for the past fifteen years. I have been supporting a family of four daughters which is a completely different story itself. My dad has told my that I have gone through similar struggles that he has gone through. I don’t really believe that. My struggles are minuscule compared to him.

My struggles are sometimes financial but that is usually just panicking and thinking worst case scenario on my part. That is about as bad as it gets for me. I had no "turf wars'' to deal with or guns pointed in my face or knife scars to show anyone. He struggled learning to speak English in school. He struggled to help his mom and dad with money whenever he could. He struggled to keep out of the “turf wars” growing up in San Antonio with little success. He has told me that sometimes the “turf wars” go looking for you. He struggled with personal demons when he had to go rescue his dad from a bar fight while getting a gun pointed in his face. He struggled with himself not to go back to that bar with his buddies and shoot the place up. He knew that was not the right thing to do. That is not what his parents taught him.

My dad has lived more than I will ever live. He has lived that life so all of my brothers and sisters can have a safe, predictable life. His parents passed down the hard work ethic to him so he can pass that work ethic down to us. I hope to pass my work ethic down to my wonderful daughters. In a way I am helping my dad with this book for my daughters and my brothers and sisters so they can cherish this book for eternity. Hopefully my daughters will read this book when they get older and understand the life that my dad had to live in order to give me my values and pass those values and work ethic down to them.

Rene

Mashable

2010-03-27T19:17:00.000-07:00

One of my favorite websites is Mashable. Anything you want to know about Social Media, this is your guide. It has everything covered:

Mobile

Web Video

Entertainment

Business

Tech

Apple

Thanks Blogger!

2010-03-27T18:45:00.000-07:00

Thank you Blogger for adding these new templates. The new templates look great. I will be experimenting with different templates in the future so I hope all of my readers don't mind.

Another birthday approaches !

2010-03-18T19:03:00.000-07:00

I wish for a lot of things. Good health, winning the lotto and also the health and safety of my kids and wife. One thing I wish I could stop would be my birthdays. Yup, I have another one approaching so fast (April 23rd to be exact.) Someone in their forties has just enough life experiences to be considered wise and yet there is still a bit of learning to do.

So the countdown begins.

Who was President of the U.S when I was born?

What else happened I was born?

So I am dating myself. Oh well..What's another birthday.

Women's Health Foundation girls night out

2010-03-18T18:34:00.000-07:00

On April 1st The Women’s Health Foundation, a non-profit dedicated to raising awareness and support for issues of women’s pelvic and sexual health, will be hosting an educational girls night out event at the Fort Sam Houston Golf Club in San Antonio. The evening will bring local women together to toast champagne, indulge in chocolate from local bakeries, take part in flirty dance instructionals and learn how to better themselves from the inside out.

The event will feature presentations from local women’s health experts who will offer expert advice on everything from springing into lasting health and relationships this season, to tips for optimal women’s health at every age. Dr. Yashika Dooley, a local Air Force Officer and Urogynecologist will also speak about her personal journey with women’s health. The Foundation’s founder, Missy Lavender, will do the same. Details Thursday, April 1st from 6 - 9 pm Fort Sam Houston Golf Club 2109 Harry Wurzbach. San Antonio, TX Tickets are $15

Date(s): 04/01/2010 - 04/01/2010
Time: 6 p.m.-9 p.m.

Fort Sam Houston
1212 Stanley Rd., Bldg. 124
Fort Sam Houston, TX 78234
Phone: 210/207-3078

Parents having fun with texting

2010-03-16T19:00:00.000-07:00

My 70 ish year old parents have discovered the art of texting. My parents are in Las Vegas today and I received several texts from them. The texts are all funny. It is a good way for them to keep us kids up to date on their wins and losses in Las Vegas.

My parents have discovered how to send the same text to multiple parties. I thought they were sending the texts to only me. But after calling my mom in Las Vegas to see if I was special I discovered that they are using the above mentioned technique to send all of my brothers and sisters the same text messages. It is not as personal as them calling us but it is still communication. I will now attempt to describe a couple of text messages that I received today.

1. Picture mail with audio of certain hotels.

2. A picture mail of the winning slot machine my dad was using.

3. A picture of them heading to the Donny and Marie concert.

4. A text message from my mom stating something about my dad's pants falling down from all of the walking they are doing in Las Vegas.(I had to put this text in PG-13)

Overall I am happy that they are able to communicate with us and have fun with technology that was not even available when they were growing up.I still remember playing with my dad's brick cell phone. I wonder what text messages I will get from them tomorrow?

P.S That is not my mom with that I-Phone in the above picture.

I just received a text that my parents Donnie and Marie concert was canceled (1 minute ago)I hope they can go see another show instead.

Health goal 2010

2010-03-14T20:34:00.000-07:00

On my quest to increase my HDL cholesterol from .28 to .40 (normal for men) I went to the local GNC today and purchased some Omega 3 fish oil pills. The girl at the GNC was very knowledgeable so I felt comfortable. My game plan is to exercise 4 times a week and take the Omega 3 tablets daily. I am also determined to eat healthier. At some point I want to get another blood test to see my progress.

According to several websites there are foods I can eat to help me raise my HDL cholesterol.

Fruits and vegetables - onions (half an onion a day), citrus fruit, apples and grapes and dark green vegetables.

Grains- Pick grains that are high in soluble fiber such as whole grains, oats, oat bran, brown rice, legumes and lentils.

Oils-Look for oils that are high in monounsaturated fats such as canola oil or olive oil. Canola oil is tasteless, so it will not affect the flavor of the food.

Omega 3 -include fish, cold-pressed flaxseed oil, safflower oil and sunflower oil.

Soy- Two servings of soy products such as tofu and tempeh a day help increase HDL.

So here is to eating healthy for those of us that need to. I guess I can set a good example for my daughters by eating right and exercising. I have to thank my wife and sister for encouraging me to to get a physical. Without a physical I would have been on a destructive path to heart disease.

Thanks Veronica and Rosie!

Eclipse Trailer (for my daughters and wife)

2010-03-14T11:15:00.000-07:00

Here is the Eclipse trailer I promised my daughter Monica and my wife. They are huge Twilight and for that matter Vampire (books,movies)fans. So here it is.

Robert Patinson - Edward Cullen
Taylor Lautner- Jacob Black (My daughter's favorite)
Kristen Stewart- Isabella Swan

My daughter also wants me to stand in line at midnight this Friday 3/19/10 for the New Moon video release. I better get some sleep!

So long Mr. Fast Food!

2010-03-12T20:39:00.000-08:00

Ok so I mentioned in a earlier post that I had my physical and everything came out great. I gave the two vials of blood and the urine sample. My doctor said that my HDL cholesterol is too low ! I have a confession. Let's say that for the past forty something years I have not been eating the most healthiest food on the planet.

I love fast food. I guess you can say that I used to love fast food because I am no longer going to eat anything I want. From my research the HDL cholesterol, or "good" cholesterol, appears to scour the walls of blood vessels, cleaning out excess cholesterol. It then carries that excess cholesterol -- which otherwise might have been used to make the "plaques" that cause coronary artery disease -- back to the liver for processing.

HDL levels below 40 mg/dL result in an increased risk of coronary atery disease, even in people whose total cholesterol and LDL cholesterol levels are normal. HDL levels between 40 and 60 mg/dL are considered "normal." However, HDL levels greater than 60 mg/dL may actually protect people from heart disease.

According to my lab results from my blood work my HDL came back at 28!!!!!I need to find a way to get my HDL levels up to par. My doctor recommended exercising which I started doing last month. I have been exercising about 4-5 days a week. I have been on using the treadmill and the weights religiously with the hopes of getting my HDL cholesterol up to par. I am also researching what foods and possibly any over the counter supplements I can take.

I will let you know on my progress. I hope to report my some good news soon. I am already craving Whataburger or Carls Jr!

Iron Man 2 trailer

2010-03-08T19:30:00.000-08:00

I can't wait for Iron Man 2. Here is the trailer that appeared last night. The trailer looks good with Robert Downy reprising his role at Tony Stark. Cast also includes:

Don Cheadle: Rhodey Rhodes/War Machine

Mickey Rourke: Whiplash

Gwenneth Paltrow:Pepper Potts

Samuel L Jackson: Nick Fury

Scarlett Johansen: Black Widow

Sam Rockwell : Justin Hammer

Looks like a lot of fun.

Running

2010-03-07T16:29:00.000-08:00

I'm excited about running my first 5k run in a couple of weeks. I do and don't want to compete. Ok course everyone wants to win one of these races. I want to run this race for staying fit. If I happen to win a 5k run that would not be a bad thing.

I have been training for about a month. To be honest it has not been too bad. I usually start off slow and pace myself for the first couple of miles and then finish strong. I just had my yearly physical and my doctor gave me the green light to go all out as far as exercise. I will let you know how I do with my first 5k run.

Driving in San Antonio....

2010-03-07T12:58:00.000-08:00

I am really concerned about driving in San Antonio these days. I am a conservative driver. I am not aggressive. I am a defensive driver more than anything. I always maintain a safe following distance. I usually drive about five miles over the speed limit. With that being said, I have two major complaints.

1. Following distance. I find more and more people are resorting to tailgating. Why do people tailgate? I don't know. What happens if I have to stop all of a sudden? It is very frustrating. People that tailgate don't care if you have kids in the car or even a baby. These people do not deserve to be in the road and they deserve to have their car impounded and fined.

2. Turn signals. No one uses their turn signals anymore. I am driving and someone will cut in front of me using no signal. Honking at these people is useless.

I am concerned at all of the instances of road rage here in San Antonio. I watch it every night on the evening news. I would hope that these people are educated enough to think twice about what they do on the road. I regretfully think that these aggressive drivers have a high school education. That is about it. Nothing good ever happens from road rage. More than likely a trip to the hospital would be in store for you if you are overly aggressive on the road.

Please be careful on the roads. Watch your following distance and use your turn signals. There are families on the road. One mistake from a self centered driver and a family can be wiped out.

The human family

2010-03-02T11:44:00.000-08:00

I finally had some time to sit down and watch the Vancouver Winter Olympics this past week. I was watching with my 7 year old daughter when she asked me "What do all of those flags mean from these different countries? And are these people from these countries different from me?" After thinking about this question for a few minutes I replied.

"No these people from different countries are just part of a bigger family.They are part of the human race which we are a part of. They are all your brothers and sisters." Her eyes lit up. I also went on to say "just because they speak a different language we all call the earth home. We all breathe the same air."

I did not want to get too deep with her on that subject but she understood what I was saying.

1986

2010-03-01T19:31:00.001-08:00

I will always remember this year because I spent part of the summmer in Mexico City. I visited several museums and spent a few days wandering the streets of one of the largest cities in the world. Somehow I found my way back to San Antonio. I would like to go back one day and visit the same places like El Museo Rufino Tamayo,

Also the Castillo de Chapultepec

How can I forget Paseo de la Reforma, .

I also went into the Palacio Bellas Artes..

Most memorable was when I was sitting at the base of this giant flag pole with the Mexican flag right next to the Presidential Palace in Mexico city. Called the "Zocalo." A couple of soldiers came rushing towards me with their machine guns . I guess I should have known better.

Searching

2010-02-28T15:32:00.000-08:00

Never mind searching for who you are. Search for the person you aspire to be. ~Robert Brault

I like this quote. We spend a life time searching for ourselves. I occasionally have to re-evaluate who I am, where I am heading and where I want to be. I always ask myself what my purpose is in this life time.

I know what I aspire to be. I want to be the best dad and the best husband there is. I want to be the best friend and the best brother there is. Whatever the case is, I am striving to get there. There is the occasional road block that life throws at you but it would not be living if we did not have these road blocks.

I aspire to be the man that hopefully my daughters and my wife can look up to.

ABC's "Lost" TV show

2010-02-28T15:08:00.000-08:00

I really like ABC's Lost. Too bad it is in it's final season. Yeah there is the time travel and the flash backs and it is a bit confusing at times. But it is quality television. I will miss it. I guess I need to start looking for a new show.

Working it out

2010-02-25T04:40:00.001-08:00

I have my yearly physical coming up next week. I am anxious to see how I am doing physically. I know I am at the point in my life where I have to pay more attention to my body. I have been working out for the past month and feel like I am making some progress in the gym. I am not trying to get big or anything like that. It's more of a "get in shape" thing.

I also owe it to my kids and family to get fit and stay on this planet as long as I can. I will let you know how it goes.

To encourage

2010-02-24T19:51:00.001-08:00

Encouragement is a gift.

Encouragement creates energy.

Encouragement lasts a lifetime and can be life- changing.

Encouragement motivates positive behavior.

Encouragement is often the most effective form of motivation.

Encouragement most often comes from listening than talking.

Encouragement is more effective than crticism.

Encouragent can be as simple as a smile.

Encourage everyone you know and everyone you meet.

- Adopted from " God is in the small stuff"

Praying

2010-02-21T19:22:00.000-08:00

I have been praying a lot these days. I pray for my family to be protected at all times. I pray to help me provide for my family. I pray every morning to help me have a good day. I also pray for people who need help and people who are important in my life. I find that God listens to my prayers.

It is good to pray, it does not make you more or less of a man. It is good to have an open dialogue with your creator. I must have a special hotline up there or be favored because I feel that God protects me and listens to my prayers at all times. I found the following excerpt from the book "Lists to live by" the Christian Collection for everything that really matters, by Alice Gray, Steven Stephens and John Van Diest.

Four ways God answers prayers:

If the request is wrong,
God says, No.

If the timing is wrong,
God says, slow.

If you are wrong,
God says, Grow.

But if the request is right,
the timing is right,
and you are right,
God says, Go.

I try and pray for the right requests. There have been times where God has told me to grow. I also believe that my requests and timing has been right and he has wanted me to go forward.

Joining the ranks

2010-02-21T07:03:00.001-08:00

There is no argument that the U.S will soon be busting at the seams with an aging population. The need for more doctors and advanced technology will always be an issue.

I am in my forties right now and I worry about what medical and technological advances will be available to me during my senior years. I am not quite there yet but it's not too far away either.

I am in good health right now. I have started exercising at work and hopefully I can keep it up (I'm crossing my fingers!) The only medical problem I had to deal with is gall bladder procedure that I had done a couple of years ago.
Not a bad medical record for my first forty years.

I am not afraid of growing old. I will embrace it. I look foward to being a grandfather one day. I look foward to holding my grandson or grandaughter. Here is to another forty years.

Teen angst

2010-02-19T06:19:00.001-08:00

I met a client for lunch earlier this week. We were both talking about our kids and how they are growing up fast. Pretty soon both of my daughters will be teenagers

The teen years I believe are for discovery . My teen years were ok. I know I was a mischievous kid growing up. I liked to get into trouble quite a bit. I was also a selfish teen. I had moments as a teen that I am not proud of. I caused some heartache to my parents which I wish I could take back.

I do think my teen years made me stronger as a person. I know my daughters will be ok. I know me and my wife will be up to the challenge . Even if my daughters don't like what they hear at times from their parents, I know they will always love and continue to be there for me and my wife even into my senior years.

My sisters are living proof of that with my parents I will let you know how it goes with us.

On the move

2010-02-18T18:06:00.001-08:00

Traveling is a requirement of my job. I did a blog post earlier on how much I miss my family when I am away. It's true. I carry a lot of pictures of my family on my Itouch when I travel. When I look at pictures of my girlies I get a level of anxiety that I don't like. I want to hold each one of them but I can't.

I will be home soon and hopefully I can take some time off to be with you guys. Until then.

Looking...

2010-02-14T17:15:00.000-08:00

Look up

God will never leave of forsake you.

His word is a light unto your path.

Look out

Confide in a friend

Seek comfort and counsel in local resources.

Look in

Take an inventory of your feelings.

Journal your thoughts, ideas and progress.

Look for truth

Gather information and research your options.

Often natural inclinations are in opposition to God's ways.

Look realistically

Resist the temptation to change others.

Change what you can, accept what you cannot.

Look for balance

Take care of yourself.

Get enough rest, eat healthy,attempt to simplify life.

Look for laughter

A cheerful heart is like good medicine.

Choose joyful music, uplifting books, optimistic friends.

Look for hope

This too shall pass.

Dwell on what is good and worthy of praise.

Look for comfort

Read the Psalms.

Let others encourage you and find ways to encourage others.

Look for God's purpose.

Every experience has spiritual significance.

Press closer to God and allow him to deepen your faith.

-Glenda Hotton

Professor of Home Economics, Masters College

The office

2010-02-13T19:26:00.000-08:00

I think one of my favorite TV shows is The Office.

How hope acts

2010-02-12T19:36:00.000-08:00

There is a lot going on in some of my friends lives right now. I hope this helps them.

Hope looks for the good in people instead of harping on the worst in them.

Hope opens the doors where despair closes them.

Hope discovers what can be done instead of grumbling about what cannot be done.

Hope draws its power from a deep trust in God and the basic goodness of mankind.

Hope lights a candle instead of cursing the darkness.

Hope regards problems, small or large as opportunities.

Hope cherishes no illusions, nor does it yield to cynicism.

We can always hope.......

-Father James Keller

God's stress management plan

2010-02-09T19:41:00.000-08:00

I normally don't press my religion on anyone. I thought this was interesting.

1. Workout your difficulties with others.

2. Help those around you.

3. Rejoice in the Lord always.

4. Slow down and be gentle.

5. Remember that God is near.

6. Let go of all your anxieties.

7. Hand them over to god.

8. Allow God's peace to guard your heart and soul.

10. Focus on the positives of life.

11. Do what you already knew you should do.

12. Be content with whatever situation you are in.

13. Claim the promise that "I can do everything through him who gives me strength."

14. Accept the help and encouragement of others.

15. Trust God to meet all of your needs.

16. Give God all the glory.

The Apostle Paul

Letter to Philippians, Chapter4

Milestones

2010-02-08T18:33:00.000-08:00

Me and my wife have reached a milestone in our marriage. We have been married 13 years. Usually 13 is a unlucky number but I don't see it that way.

Let's count the 13 reasons me and my wife are lucky.

The first four are obvious.

1. Monica

2. Mia

3. Sofie

4. Brianna

5. Nice house

6. Good jobs

7. Good communication

8. A house full of love

9. Work through problems

10.Raising a houseful of kids (I would not have it any other way)

11.Loving extended family

12.Nice neighborhood

13.Good health

I met my wife in church. She was the choir director. I kind of new we would get married eventually but there was an event that moved things along. This was the birth of my oldest daughter Brianna. This event made us strong right from the start. Since Brianna's birth there has been three other daughters. I think my purpose in life is to raise these girls into responsible young women. I guess life works in funny ways. Now I can never be without any of them.

And so the story goes..

2010-01-19T11:47:00.000-08:00

I am continuing to work on my dad's book in my spare time. I have no time limit to finish this but I have set a goal to have it completed this year. It is a learning process for me but I feel that I can get it done in the correct manner. It can be hard since I work full time trying to manage a household full of kids. There are times when I come home so mentally drained from work that I don't want to do anything but have dinner, play with the kids and put everyone to bed.

But back to the book about my dad, he continues to supply me with stories about his past. I am continuing to edit them and I am starting to think about how I want to pitch this book and to whom. I know I have enough material to pitch the book now but I want to make sure I am ready. It is a project that I have committed to and I am determined to see it through.

I hope one day that my girls can make the time to write about me in a blog or abook . I don't really consider my life really interesting to this point. I continue to believe that my dad did so much more at my age than I think I will do in a lifetime. Maybe the next forty years of life will be a little bit more interesting with all kinds of twists and turns!

Wondering....

2010-01-15T14:32:00.000-08:00

There is a lot going on in the world right now. Earthquakes , floods, forest fires and viruses. I hope that all lives can be spared but sometimes that is not always the case. I am not sure what God's plan is for some of us. Nobody knows. I just know that we need to help those in need. Maybe that is our mission. Helping the needy should be top priority. At one time I have been in need and I am sure some of you were in need at one point.

As of this writing death toll estimates are at 100,000. As each day passes the chances of finding someone alive in the rubble diminishes drastically. The U.S is taking the lead and has dispatched warships and troops to Haiti. We are also being asked on Twitter and Facebook to donate money for Haiti . This country needs our help. Soon there will be a telethon sponsored by many Hollywood heavyweights led by George Clooney,asking for our help. MTV and eleven other broadcast networks have signed on to air the 2 hour telethon next week.

"Hope for Haiti" telethon will raise money for five relief agencies currently working in the ravaged country. It will also be co-hosted by Anderson Cooper in Haiti and Wycleaf John. It will air on MTV, CBS, ABC, FOX,CNN, BET, CMT, CW and other networks.

Please give.

One goal for 2010

2009-12-28T18:34:00.000-08:00

One goal I have for 2010 is to get my dad's book published . He put a lot of time into the book so I want to rewrite, edit and maybe even add some details to it. He has a lot of stories to tell and I feel that he has lived a life filled with the full spectrum of setbacks and achievements. I need to do more research on the query process and hunt for a literary agent .

The query letter to a agent or a publisher is a tough process. The query letter should have the hook, the mini synopsis and the writer's biography . Easier said that done! I have faith that the book will be good enough to be picked up by a publisher. I need to channel my Hemmingway and my Kerouac. Wish me luck..

Taking the kids to the San Antonio Public Library during holiday break

2009-12-20T13:09:00.000-08:00

Looking for something to do with the kids during that long holiday break? I know for a lot of us the holiday break means spending time with friends and family. If your kids are like mine I know they can get very restless. When that happens they usually get into trouble. You have already braved the malls for the latest ipod , or that new blue ray dvd player . What to do next? How about taking a break from it all and visiting the San Antonio Public Library .

I am writing this post from the John Igo branch which is located off on 13330 Kyle Seal Parkway and 1604 in Northwest San Antonio. It is one of the San Antonio's newest libraries opened on Dec 8, 2007 . John Igo is a longtime English Professor at San Antonio college.I must admit that the architects with the City of San Antonio were very innovative when it came to designing this library. The structure itself appears to be designed to have all of the latest green innovations around. It is also outfitted with free Wi-Fi . There are two buildings connect by a glass foyer. On the other side of the building are the restrooms and the meeting rooms. Outside, there are a row of tables specifically designed for Wi-Fi or just simply wanting to read outside. There is also a nice trail outside with huge oak trees. (I'm trying to finish this post so the kids can go check out the trail!)

The kids area at this library has plenty of kids books to choose from. There are also computers in this area for kids to log on to. I was going to sit over there with them in that area but the tables are very small. I felt like Andre the Giant (rest in peace) sitting at one of those tables. Kids have full access to the library system as the adults. They can search for their favorite books on the computers and place them on hold. They can also check out the books themselves with the "self check out" computers.

My wife and kids love this library. I must admit that they started coming here before I did. I love watching my kids as they walk in the door . The little ones head straight to the kids section and the computers over there. My older kids head to their sections right away. Bonnie Conner playground is also located next to the library. That was named after a San Antonio City Council woman. My kids love that park too. So if you are looking for a nice little inexpensive getaway I would definitely recommend one of San Antonio's many libraries.

Keeping up with my blog during the holidays.

2009-12-15T19:10:00.000-08:00

It's been a little tougher than I thought to keep up with my blog. The holidays have not been too kind to my blog. I have been working a lot of hours, which is a good thing. I worked six days in a row last week and also worked on my day off this week. By the time I get home it is 6:30 pm and I don't want to do much. I also need to complete my Christmas shopping too. As of this writing I am still looking for that elusive Barbie beauty salon for my 2nd grader. (I wish I can go back in time and invest in all Barbie stock or Mattel products ). I am also thinking about a trampoline for all of my kids.

In addition to working long hours and the need to finish my Christmas shopping I also need to put on a happy face for Christmas parties and school functions for my kids. Keeping things crazy at work and home is a good thing. I am working and the kids are having fun during the holidays. I feel fortunate that we all have our health and jobs at home. Keeping a crazy lifestyle seems to be the norm.

Looking forward to sharing new thoughts and new ideas in 2010. Merry Christmas to everyone!!!

Traveling the Texas Hill Country during the Holidays

2009-12-01T11:04:00.000-08:00

I did not realize how much I miss the Texas Hill Country in and around San Antonio. As a kid my parents used to have some property around Wimberly Texas. We had a cabin on this property (It was more of a shack) where we would sleep over. Visiting our property in Wimberly as kids gave us an idea how some of the first Texas settlers used to live off of the land.

When traveling on IH 10 towards Boerne, Comfort and Round Mountain you immediately notice the rolling Texas Hills and the great fall and winter colors. I forgot how fun it is to spend the holidays in the Hill Country . I went with my family to the Comfort Texas holiday parade. I felt like I was on a movie set. Everything seemed so perfect. The way the small town had the streets and the buildings decorated I thought I had stepped on the movie set of "Hope Floats" or something. It also seemed very surreal because everything was so perfect. Everyone seemed to know each other there. Some of the floats were very " Texas." Like the float carrying the high school football team or the float carrying a deer blind with a BBQ pit and the beauty queen. There was also a Christimas tree with beer cans on it. Only in Texas .

I feel a connection to the Texas Hill Country I'm not sure what it is. Maybe it was the fact that we had some property growing up or maybe being born and raised in South Central Texas. There are many holiday activities coming up in the small cities surrounding San Antonio . Try and hit the road this holiday season. There are many family memories just waiting for you and future generations.

Saving baby pictures from our old computer

2009-11-21T14:46:00.000-08:00

We have a ten year old Dell computer that has been out of commission for awhile. It has been in a closet for a long time. It started giving us trouble so we decided to buy a new desktop a couple of years ago. We took tons of baby pictures of all of my daughters and stored them all on this computer. I think the mistake that me and my wife made is not storing these baby pictures in other places like in a photo album or some picture storing website.

I have all of their births and other major life events stores on this old computer. So I had to retrieve these pictures at all costs. I even left the desktop out on the floor as a reminder of what I needed to do. The computer itself is able to "boot" up so I think that is a good thing. I was told that our old Dell desktop was so old that not even any flash drives were compatible.

I have a friend at work who is a computer tech. He was able to help me retrieve all of the baby pictures that were on my computer. All of the baby pictures of my daughters are so precious I am glad we were able to retrieve them. Hopefully I will have some baby pictures to show all of you guys real soon!

Special thanks to my buddy at work who was able to help me!

Reflections 2009

2009-11-10T20:00:00.000-08:00

We are quickly coming to the end of 2009. I'm sure all bloggers are going to reflect on this past year. I am no different. I think overall 2009 was a good year for my family(as well as my extended family.) I made a promise to myself that I was going to keep this blog current and I think I have done that. I need this blog for personal reasons. One reason I need this blog is to help me wind down from a long day at work. Another reason I need this blog is to occasionally vent about work (I think that is part of the winding down process!)

I cannot forget that I promised myself that I would blog about the "in and outs" of fatherhood. I don't claim to be a expert on this subject but I try really hard to be good at it. I am "knocking on wood" when I say that all of my daughters have been in good health this past year. All of my brothers and sisters are doing well so I am grateful for that. My parent's health situation has been somewhat steady. My dad has had some problems with cataracts but he is aggressively trying to get that corrected with surgery. My mom has had some health concerns with her irregular heart beat. My brothers and sisters (and her doctors) are trying to find the best treatment for her. We are very optimistic when it comes to my parent's health. I pray that 2010 gets their health back on track.

I spent a lot of time reflecting about my job and everything that happened. I survived several rounds of layoffs. I am grateful that I was able to keep my job. A lot of my friends were not as fortunate. I miss a lot of my ex co-workers. I know all of them have rebounded and have new jobs. I hope that we do not have to experience layoffs again.

I think that 2010 will be better for everybody. The economy is heading in the right direction. You and I experienced the worst of times. I am hopeful that we never have to go through that again.

How was your 2009?

Lists to live by

2009-11-10T19:20:00.000-08:00

I bought this book today, called "Lists to live by," The Christian Collection, for "everything that really matters. " Here is a section:

Be an Encourager

Encouragement is a gift
Encouragement creates energy
Encouragement lasts a lifetime and can be life-changing
Encouragement motivates positive behavior
Encouragement is often the most effective form of motivation
Encouragement more often comes from listening than talking
Encouragement is more effective than criticism
Encouragement can be as simple as a smile
Encourage everyone you know and everyone you meet

I think we all can use a little encouragement. What do you think?

Looking forward to Turkey day?

2009-11-03T16:31:00.000-08:00

Thanksgiving is around the corner. Time to stuff our faces with turkey, dressing, mash potatoes, veggies , and all the trimmings. The holiday season is upon us. I love Thanksgiving because it is all about giving "thanks" and spending time with all of the family. Usually after Halloween our family starts debating about which house Thanksgiving will be at. It is a fierce debate. My parents have hosted Thanksgiving every year since we were kids. It is time for my parents to sit back and just show up. We will take care of the rest.

Sometimes the Thanksgiving debate between my brothers and sisters is about who is going to bring what dish. I have brought different items throughout the years. (Actually my wife has made different items I just attach my name to it!) Since I have a lot of brothers and sisters there is always a lot of food. Tons of leftovers too. Thanksgiving also means plenty of football including the Dallas Cowboys.

I have a lot to be thankful for this Holiday season. My job is going well. I have been with the same company close to 8 years. My wife and kids have their health. My parents have their health. Al l of my brothers and sisters are doing well. We lost my mother in law recently but she is always with us in spirit 100 % of the time.

I have to make the rounds on Thanksgiving. It is a all day event. Here is my day:

Wake up at 9:00 am
Watch a bit of the Macy's Thanksgiving parade while getting dressed
Help get the kids ready
Don't forget the salad or mashed potatoes
Go to my family's house
Eat
Watch the Dallas Cowboys (fall asleep)
Leave my family's house
Arrive at my wife's family's house
Eat again (I'm really stuffed)
Drink beer
Let my wife drive me home
Draw names for Christmas gift exchange
Debate on which house will host Christmas lunch/gift exchange
Eat leftovers for the next few days.

As you can see I have a busy schedule on this day. I hope everyone has a good Thanksgiving.

The need to blog

2009-10-25T19:20:00.000-07:00

I think everyone reading this post should have a blog. I have my reasons for blogging. Some posts are very personal and other posts are for fun. I really want to leave a written record for my children. My dad handed me a personal memoir of his life a few years ago. It was a very detailed account of his jobs, his struggles, his personal demons, and what he had to sacrifice to raise all of my brothers and sisters. Just think how much more he could have written if he had a computer to blog on.

My reasons for blogging are simple. I want them to know what kind of father they have. I want them to know what kind of family I came from and that I am not perfect. I am sure that most parents would admit that they are not perfect. But we all try as hard as we can to do our best. Like my father before me I want to provide a written account of my personal thoughts, likes, dislikes, observations, and struggles.

I know my girls will enjoy my posts. Some of my personal favorites so far:

Take five minutes
A mother's hands
A letter to my mother in law
A father and a friend
Our gift to each other
Exhilarating moments
Raising daughters
Hero's among us
Childhood the most beautiful season of all

These are just some of my favorites but I really like all of the posts I have done. Each post has taken some thought and fact finding. So I think that everyone should take a few minutes to start a blog and write down some thoughts. I know some of you have other hobbies like scrap booking or exercising. Your blog will stay on the Internet forever. With just a few clicks of the mouse my kids will be able to open up a treasure that they can hold onto forever. If each of my daughters want to start their own blog then that is something that they can leave for future generations as well. So start blogging!

A father and a friend

2009-10-21T12:52:00.000-07:00

A daughter is a little girl who grows up to be a friend.-- Author Unknown

I'm hoping that one day all of my daughters will read this post. I know that our family is relatively young and you girls are growing before my eyes. I still remember each one of you as a babies all fat and chubby. I miss holding you girls like little babies and sometimes I wish I can go back there but I know that you all have to grow. Believe it or not I miss the diaper changing, the burping, the feedings. You girls hold a special place in my heart, always.

I want you to know that you can come to me if you need to talk. Any situation, it does not matter, I am always here. I am your father, and a friend. You girls define who I am. I already have some wonderful memories and I know there are more to come . I have learned so much from all of you already. Just by watching you guys I have learned that if I fall someone will always be there to pick me up. I have learned that it is ok to share my emotions whenever I need to, someone will always listen. I have also learned just by watching you guys that life is like a box of crayola crayons. It's ok to color life a bright blue or green or maybe even a purple. Whatever color I feel compelled to use.

I have learned that when you girls chase each other around the house, maybe I can chase life and chase after my own dreams with a little more enthusiasm and gusto. I have also learned it is ok to give and receive hugs whenever I feel like it.

Just talk to me.

Humble Oil Station and my Grandfather

2009-10-10T12:39:00.000-07:00

I am excited that the Humble Oil Station here in San Antonio won the "This Place Matters" national competition sponsored by the National Trust for Historic Preservation. This 1930's gas station is located deep in the west side of San Antonio on 1091 S. Laredo st. I am happy that Audrey Zamora- Johnson with the City of San Antonio was able to get the word out on this historic building. I know this building has great meaning to San Antonio and to many families whose relatives used to work there. This building also has meaning to my relatives.

My dad recently told me that my Grandfather used to pump gas there. As a boy my dad said that he used to go visit my Grandfather while he was taking care of his customers. I know my Grandfather had a great work ethic. I know that work ethic has been handed down to my dad and to all of us. My dad is a retired director from CPS Energy and all of my brothers and sisters are professionals in different fields. Everything from law enforcement, banking, insurance and education.

I want to get my young family over there to see where their Great Grandfather used to work at one time. I know it would mean everything to them. I hope to see if restored to its original glory. There are so many historic buildings around San Antonio that I think we should try and save, I hope this is just a stepping stone.

Funny stuff - Toddler property laws

2009-10-03T20:03:00.000-07:00

This is funny. I saw it in the Westside Sol newspaper. These toddler property laws are so true. You don't know how many arguments over toys and books I have had to break up in my household.

1. If I like it, it's mine.

2. If it's in my hand, It's mine.

3. If I can take it from you, it's mine.

4. If I had it a little while ago, It's mine.

5. If it's mine, it must never appear to be yours in any way.

6. If I am doing or building some thing, all the pieces are mine.

7. If it looks like mine, it is mine.

8. If I saw it first, it's mine.

9. If you are playing with something and you put it down, it automatically becomes mine.

10. If it's broken, it's yours.

A parent's concern about the H1N1 vaccine

2009-09-29T09:32:00.000-07:00

I am a little nervous when it comes to the H1N1 vaccine.The H1N1 vaccine is on the way to a school or doctor's office near you. Supposedly some kids will be getting the vaccine at their school or at their pediatrician's office ( If the doctor signed up to give the vaccine). NISD has had plenty of media coverage in regards to the upcommimg implementation of the vaccine. NISD is trying to get federal help for the implementation of the vaccine. NISD spokesperson Pasqual Gonzalez estimates that it could cost about 1 million dollars to hire the medical personnel needed at each school.

I am concerned because I want to know more about the vaccine . I want to know more about the side effects. I read in yesterday's newspaper that there will be normal side effects as a result of this vaccine. I don't know how the media and for that matter the CDC (Centers for Diesease Control) can down play the side effects of the H1N1 vaccine. We are not talking about a vaccine for the measles or the mumps. We are talking about Swine Flu. In this Good Morning America interview it lists the side effects of the Swine Flu vaccine.

If my kids are going to get the H1N1 vaccine, I want to know as much as I can about it. I have four daughters that will need to get the H1N1 vaccine in the next few weeks. I need to be prepared, I need to look for the signs in the GMA piece mentioned above . I want to know how soon I can expect any side effects of this vaccine.

Am I going to let my kids get the H1N1 vaccine? I still don't know. There are too many questions that us parents need to be concerned about. I don't like the fact that the side effects are being downplayed. My kids have all had the regular flu vaccine but we are talking about more of a serious threat than the regular flu. At this point I am still uncertain. Am I being paranoid? Probably. All of us parents need to be paranoid about something like this. After all, these are our babies.

Getting ready for the holidays

2009-09-27T16:06:00.000-07:00

I can't believe I am writing this post . The holidays are just around the corner. Whenever I think about the holidays I think about presents. I'm I going to have enough money for presents and bills. Even though things seem to be getting better, I think a lot of people are going to be in the same situation this year. I think this holiday season there will be more shoppers looking for deals. (Sorry big department stores. I think your holiday sales numbers are going to be bad once again.)

Don't get me wrong I do love the holiday season. I like the hustle and bustle. I like the holiday cartoons .

I love watching these holiday movies with the kids. I need to start thinking about Christmas lists.

I am already asking myself what kind of budget am I going to have? How much do I allow for my wife? How much do I allow for my kids? What about my parents, nieces and nephews? What we do in my extended family (brothers and sisters) is draw names. Its is a lot easier on the wallet. I only have to buy for one family member.

We also have my wife's extended family. They also draw names for Christmas presents. I think you have to in today's economic environment. Did I mention the Holiday parties? I need to get past Halloween first.

Witnessing a rollover accident

2009-09-25T11:30:00.000-07:00

'As you grow older, you'll find the only things you regret are the things you didn't do. " ~Zachary Scott

Just witnessed a rollover accident on Ih 10 east. I was about 40 to 50 yards in back of the SUV when all of a sudden I see it lose control. The SUV violently swerved and then rolled two or three times. It rolled into traffic comming to a complete stop. It looked like a woman behind the wheel . I saw her walk away from the accident. The first thing I thought about was my little girl in the backseat of my car. I was able to stop my car in time without getting hit from behind.

I stopped long enough to make sure the woman was ok. Plenty of people stopped to make sure she was ok. My other thought was getting out of the car on a busy highway. No thanks. I stayed in the car. But seeing a rollover accident in person is very scary. The accident happened so slowly. It was very surreal. I am glad the woman had some guardian angels with her.

You know things could have turned out worse. It did not so I am thankful. I always tell myself that life is so short. We need to live like today is going to be our last. Whether we realize it or not, we are only here on earth for a short time. We need to make the most of our time here.

Work relocation the sequel

2009-09-23T19:59:00.000-07:00

In a previous post I mentioned that I relocated to a different part of the city. Our office is located near Castroville Texas. When we build out in the "hill country" we are actually intruding on wildlife. As a result of building in the "hill country," I am going to see a lot of "roadkill."

Some of the "roadkill" I have seen while driving to work:

Hogs! Roadkill

Also seen: Ringtail Cat-Roadkill

I have also seen a cow outside the fence. Walking alongside the road. Not roadkill. Could be.

Skunks of course -Roadkill

I have also seen coyote and armadillo roadkill while driving to work. I am learning about Texas wildlife while driving to work every morning. I'm wondering what I am going to see tomorrow?

Our gift to each other

2009-09-16T17:17:00.000-07:00

You don't choose your family. They are God's gift to you, as you are to them.

-Desmond Tutu

Daughters,

Even though I am on the road, I am thinking about you guys. I want to know what you all are doing right at this moment. I want to give you all lots of hugs. I also want to know if you are behaving for your mother. I hope so! What kept me going while I was away was the fact that I kept busy and was wanting to do a good job. Keeping busy meant that I would not have that much down time. Keeping busy also meant time would go by faster and that meant getting back to you guys that much sooner. I keep mentioning the word "time." For a family man on a business trip I'm not sure time is a good thing. I think time is the enemy because it goes by so slow when I am away. Almost like it does not want me to get back to you all.

As the quote states we did not choose each other we are God's gift to each other. God chose us to be together and I would not have it any other way.

Love Dad

RIP Patrick Swayze

2009-09-14T19:45:00.000-07:00

Patrick Swayze lost his battle with pancreatic cancer today. I have seen just about every one of his movies with my family. My family is sad to see him go. I know I am . I hope someday there is a cure for such a horrible disease. I asked my wife and daughters if they would name their favorite Patrick Swayze movies:

Ghost
Dirty Dancing
Roadhouse
Red Dawn
Point Break

I will always remember you as Dalton in Roadhouse.

In denial about needing bifocals

2009-09-05T20:32:00.000-07:00

I realize that I am getting a little bit older. When someone is in their 40's (yours truly), the vision starts to go (the hair also starts to go but that is another blog post!) I have been in denial that I need bifocals. When I was a kid getting bifocals meant your were getting old.

My optometrist says I need bifocals ever since I told him that I have been having trouble reading paperwork up close. When I hold anything close to my face to read it is all blurry. The chart I use on my desk everyday is somewhat blurry. I have to hold it at as far away from my face as possible.

Some people my age are fighting with the condition known as "Presbyopia."According to the Mayo clinic's website, Presbyopia is the gradual loss of your eyes' ability to focus actively on nearby objects — is a not-so-subtle reminder that you've reached middle age. A natural, often annoying part of aging, Presbyopia usually becomes noticeable in your early to mid-40s and continues to worsen until around age 60. (Yikes!)

You may become aware of Presbyopia when you start holding books and newspapers at arm's length to be able to read them. If you're nearsighted, you might temporarily manage Presbyopia by reading without your glasses. I really struggle at work reading stuff up close. My optometrist wrote a prescription for bifocals but I decided not to get them. It was a combination of being in denial and the clerk at the local Eyemasters really talking me out of them. I was being talked out of bifocals that I really needed? I hope she was not a supervisor! I just opted for my regular prescription without the bifocals.

According to the clerk at Eyemasters the bifocals can really take a period of adjustment. The clerk went on to say that I needed to pick out a frame that would be suitable for the bifocal lens. I was not going to get a frame that made me look like I stepped out of the 1970's TV show. The larger frame was needed to fit the bifocal lens. There is the lens that is divided in half with the bifocal part on the bottom of the lens and there is the "progressive no line bifocal. Right then and there I told the clerk just to give me my regular prescription. My optometrist also gave me a prescription for contact lenses. I wear my contacts almost every day. I know there is such a thing as bifocal contacts but I hear they are expensive. I think my days of wearing contact lenses may be coming to a end . But I need to take care of business today. I have had enough of not being able to read up close.

I went to Target and bought me a pair of Foster Grant reading glasses. I was not sure what "power" of reading glasses to buy. So I just tried different pairs of reading glasses and practiced reading. I was in the contact lens aisle so I practiced reading some of the labels on the contact lens solution boxes that were on the shelf next to the reading glasses. After trying them out everything seems better. I also read the newspaper and even a few books to my daughters.

I don't like getting old. I know I can't fight the inevitable. My next optometrist visit in January I have decided to go through with bifocals. Wish me luck.

P.S If you see me sprawled all over the floor next to some steps you know why. I am probably getting adjusted to my bifocals. Just peel me off the floor and point me to the fountain of youth.

Missing my Johnny Lightning lunch box

2009-09-01T07:10:00.000-07:00

One of the fun things I like to do while school supply shopping is to look at the new lunch boxes that are out. My kids buy lunch sometimes. They also like to take their lunch. I am assume they get pretty bored with the lunch menu in the cafeteria. I know I would. Today there are lots of lunch boxes to choose from. There is the Iron Man lunch box , the Spider Man lunch box and the Harry Potter lunch box. I'm sure for every movie that is out there is some kind of lunch box made.

I always took my lunch. I sometimes took my lunch in a brown paper bag. Other times I had my own lunch box. One of my first lunch boxes was a Johnny Lightning lunch box. This was from a line of race cars before Hot Wheels came out. It was so cool. It was a lunch box from the 1970's (I'm giving away my age!) It was metal and when you rubbed the picture on the front of the lunch box you could feel the image of the car. The thermos was even better. The picture of the race car and it's driver was larger than life.

I started researching my first lunch box a few months ago. I thought it would be so neat to have it. I started looking on eBay for one. Every time I started bidding for this lunch box I always got beat out at the last minute. Just to see my lunch box on the internet for the first time brought back so many good memories. My mom used to make my lunch the night before and put it in the refrigerator. That way my lunch was ready to go in the morning. The funny thing is that when I would eat my lunch at school my sandwich would always be soggy. I think after that my mom started making my lunch in the mornings!

My daughters don't know much about lunch boxes from the 1970's. They give me a confused look when I mention the lunch boxes I had. There was a lunch box made for all kinds of TV series like Chips, Charlies Angels, The Banana Splits, The Hair Bear Bunch, The Six Million Dollar Man and the Bionic Woman.

If you run across a Johnny Lightning lunch box you know where to find me!

Getting lost

2009-08-30T18:44:00.000-07:00

I have my kids enrolled in religious education classes at our church . Our church is located deep in the Northwest part of San Antonio outside of loop 1604. This whole area is growing at an a alarming rate but that is for a another blog posting. I try to get to mass as often as I can. After a long work week I have to admit that it can be tough waking up on Sundays. I attended religious education classes all through my childhood. I think my religious education upbringing molded me into the man I am today.

Today was the first day for religious education classes at our church. I have my 2nd and 6th graders enrolled. We usually get down with the kids and walk them into their classrooms. We make sure they are settled into their chairs before we leave them . After religious class the kids are escorted to the church. That is where I usually meet up with them. Or so I thought.

I waited for my 2nd grader to be escorted into mass today by her teacher. She did not show. My wife went to go look for her. She looked and looked and could not find my 2nd grader. She looked out in the classroom and back in the church. My wife said that she got lost and ended up sitting with another teacher in church. She was crying, she said that she had become separated from her class. She asked me why I did not look for her. I told her momma was looking for her and that I had to take care of her 4 year old sister and my mom in church. I promised my 2nd grader that would never happen again. I will be waiting for her as soon as she walks out of her classroom next Sunday.

It reminds me of the time I got lost at Hemisfair 68. I vaguely remember it. I think what triggers my memories of the World's Fair in 1968 (Hemisfair) is that I became separated from the pack.

I'm not sure if my family was going to get on the Monorail or if they were heading to the Tower of the Americas. All I know is that I was wondering around at the World's Fair alone. That is until a female security guard picked me up and put me on her motorcycle. I just remember wearing her hat in the security office and seeing my mom and dad walk in to claim me. I know the security guards gave me a lollipop to make me happy. That is probably where I get my love and appreciation of women. Being rescued by a woman in my toddler years at Hemisfair 68 and being surrounded by women today at home and at work.

What can I say women rule my life!

A letter to the Mcallister Park baseball team.

2009-08-29T21:08:00.001-07:00

Just wanted to express my thanks for representing San Antonio in the Little League World Series in Williamsport. Your team did a fine job showing how much fun it is to play ball and yet win at the same time. I know that in the end, it was a heartbreaking loss. You have to give credit to Chula Vista California. They came back after a disappointing loss to our team (San Antonio) earlier in the week to finally beating us in the finals.

Watching your team play in the Little League World Series brought back many memories for me. I also played baseball as a kid with the CYO , YMCA and different "Pony Leagues " around the city. I can honestly tell you those were the best times of my life. No worries, just playing baseball. Don't forget about the life long friendships that are made and the awesome concession stands. I'm sure you guys have had the "suicide" soft drink where you mix all of the flavors of soda's together? What about the Frito Pies and the popcorn? Don't forget about the sunflower seeds and the bubble gum.

My baseball teams never made it that far. So you guy need to hold your head up high. Yeah, so you guys had a terrible 1st inning. Just chalk it up to experience and move on. Don't look back. I'm hoping San Antonio has some type of city wide celebration for you guys complete with a river walk parade .You guys deserve it.

P.S I would not be suprised if my daughter and my neice show up at the celebration. It would be impossible to hold them back. They love you guys!

Exhilarating moments

2009-08-25T12:17:00.000-07:00

I was reading one of my dad's chapters in his memoirs last night. The chapter was called "Exhilarating Moments." Like my dad I have had the same similar moments . My dad mentions his exhilarating moments. I will post exactly as he has written them:

Seeing my first son born.
Seeing my other children born.
Buying our first house
Coaching my kids.
Taking trips together.
Watching our children grow.
Watching our children do well in school and in college.
When I met my wife has to be the greatest thing that has happened in my life.

I have also had similar exhilarating moments in my life. Mine are listed below:

Marrying my wife Veronica.
Seeing Monica born .
Seeing Mia born.
Seeing Sofie born.
Buying our first house
Watching my young daughters do well in school. Two in elementary school now.
Have not done much traveling with the family but I am hopeful.

More exhilarating moments to come.

Self improving

2009-08-24T19:21:00.000-07:00

"Perfection is what you're striving for, but perfection is an impossibility. However, striving for perfection is not an impossibility . Do the best you can under the conditions that exist. That is what counts. "

- John Wooden

I ran across this article today and I felt like I had to write something about it. I am a big fan of John Wooden and his UCLA dynasty. In the 1960's and 70's he won 10 NCAA men's basketball titles before he retired in 1975. Coach Wooden had some talented people on his teams including Kareem Abdul Jabbar (Lew Alcindor), Gail Goodrich, Sidney Wicks, and Henry Bibby to name a few.

I find myself striving for perfection at work but it is not always possible. I really agree with the second part of his quote, "Do the best you can under the conditions that exist. That is what counts." I find myself doing the best I can with what I am given. I have a lot to do on any given day. I find that organization is a big part of it.

Working at a bank consists of very detailed work. I am always on the phone with clients and I am always out in the field visiting with them. Being detail oriented is a must in the banking industry. I am always trying to get the best deal I can for my client. I am always following up on my work. I think we all make mistakes at work. That is what makes us human. I am always trying to find areas I can improve. I strive for perfection but getting there is not always possible. But I do take advantage of all the tools given to me.

My territory that I am assigned to has one of the top field representatives in the company. I am very fortunate to have her. We have been partners for several years now so we take advantage of each others strengths . Without each other the territory would not be where it is today. My clients respect her and trust her. We find ways to make the territory better. We focus our energies on clients that need a little help getting back where they need to be. If I need help with something I call her . When she needs help with something she calls me. We squabble sometimes like any other partnership, but our aim is the same, to serve our customer. Self improving is also our number one goal.

Back to the original question. Am I doing the best with the conditions I am given? Yes. It is possible to strive to perfection. Coach Wooden did the best with what he had and he won several championships (It does not hurt having Lew Alcindor on your team either!) You and I our not perfect. But we can have fun trying to get there.

New school year thoughts

2009-08-23T13:15:00.000-07:00

It's finally here. The new school year. We finished up our school supply shopping and the kids are eager for the new school year to start. The kids have their backpacks ready with their school supplies inside. I thinks it's going to be a good school year. I know when I was a kid going to school I could not sleep the night before the new school year. I was excited. I'm not quite sure why we are putting the kids to sleep early tonight. I know they will be lying wide awake in their beds.

I know my kids will be excited tonight. I expect it to be a long night for them. I don't blame them, new friends and new teachers. It could be nerves too. I don't expect them to eat any dinner tonight. All the arrangements have been made in regards to after school care. The kids will be eating lunch at school and occasionally packing a lunch.

I am excited about my daughter taking the school bus to middle school for the first time. I am a little nervous about that but I know she is mature enough to take on that responsibility. She has her cell phone with her at all times so I feel good about her riding the bus. She also has friends that will be riding with her too.

I know I will be making visits to school during the year. I know I will have to be picking up the occasional sick child or taking forgotten items to school. I know I will be taking field trips this year. I am going to be sad not having them during the day. I know we will be excited to see each other after school.

So here is to all the parents that are going through all the back to school jitters. I just know that the coffee better be ready tomorrow morning.

A apology letter to my daughters: I am about to tie up the TV with NFL football

2009-08-19T06:59:00.000-07:00

Dear daughters and wife,

I am about to tie up the main TV for a few months with NFL football. As you know I like watching all teams especially the Dallas Cowboys. You probably are wondering why I follow the Dallas Cowboys after they have let me down the last couple of years? Like any Cowboy fan I hope that each year will be the year they get past the first round of the playoffs. As you are aware there will be no Jessica Simpson or Terrell Owens shenanigans, so I know the team will be trying their best.

I am apologizing in advance that we will not be watching the Disney Channel, Nickelodeon and ABC Family. We will have to do without the Wizards of Waverly Place, High School Musical, Degrassi, Ruby and the Rockets, Jonas, Hannah Montana. The Suite Life of Zach and Cody, Sonny with a Chance and Phineas and Ferb. You had a good run on the main TV this summer. Now it is my turn.

Maybe you can all become fans of the game? There is some exciting things to watch this year in the NFL with Brent Favre going to the Vikings and Terrell Owens going to Buffalo. Even Michael Vick going to the Eagles (you guys know about him.) So there is some stuff brewing this year in the NFL as you can see. I will explain whatever you need to know about the game . I will explain what routes the receivers are running. I will teach you about the blitz and how to listen for an audible from a quarterback. I will also explain why the referee throws that yellow handkerchief on the field.

So the good thing girls is that we will have the refrigerator stocked with drinks, chips, wings, and other goodies for our football viewing pleasure. So daughters I hope you will come and join me every Sunday, Monday and Thursday night for some NFL football. Who knows maybe one day we will make it to a Dallas Cowboys game at their new billion dollar stadium. Let me save up first!

P.S- Careful Brent Favre I read this morning that the Packers want some shots at you ( girls I will explain the injury he gets at that time!)

Do you know this face?

2009-08-18T05:18:00.000-07:00

I first met Danny Trejo, the actor, a couple of years ago at a family get together here in San Antonio. Danny has been in countless movies some of which you might be familiar with. He has an impressive list of movies. I will attempt to list some of them. I don't have the room to list them all. These are not in any kind of order:

Heat

Con Air

Desperado

Dusk till dawn

Bubble Boy

Spy kids movies

Grindhouse

The Devils rejects

Reindeer Games

Anaconda

At this family get together he was very nice . He was sitting at the table and answered all the family's questions about Hollywood. I was able to get a few questions in about Con Air and what it was like to work with John Cusak. He also loved meeting my kids and even posed for a picture with me and all of my daughters. And yes he has those tattoos.

Danny Trejo is related to my wife's family. I have met him a couple of times now. I read where he is currently filming the Robert Rodriguez movie Machete in Austin with Robert De Niro , Lindsey Lohan and reports are that Jonah Hill will be cast.

Slice them up good Danny!

A little bit about Cameron Crowe

2009-08-17T18:10:00.000-07:00

I'm not sure if any of the younger kids know who Cameron Crowe is. I am a big fan of Cameron Crowe. He is a Hollywood writer and director. I bet you did not know that he is the youngest writer ever to be employed by Rolling Stone Magazine. He had his first article published when he was 16 years old. As a young Rolling Stone writer he went on tour with the Allman Brothers band. At a very young age he landed some major interviews from Led Zeppelin to the Eagles.

I bet you did not know about some of his movies that he has written and directed. These are some of my favorites:

Fast Times at Ridgemont High- This was actually a book based on Cameron Crowe's life experience going undercover as a high school senior and writing about it in this book. This movie launched the careers of Sean Penn,Phoebee Cates, Forrest Whitaker, Eric Stoltz and Judge Reinhold.

Say Anything- This is a classic movie starring John Cusak and Ione Skye. This is a love story about a kick boxer, Lloyd Dobbler (Cusak) and his love for Diane Court (Ione Skye) the over achiever. The subplot revolves around Diane Court's father and his embezzlement of a retirement home.

Jerry Maguire- This is a movie about a high powered sports agent (Tom Cruise) who is fired after having a moment of clarity in which he writes and distributes a Mission Statement calling for more service to the athletes and less money for themselves. He strikes out to form his own agency. Also starring Cuba Gooding.

Almost Famous- This a autobiographical about the experiences of a teenage music journalist who goes on the road with an emerging band in the early 1970s.

Vanilla Sky-a remake of the Spanish thriller Abre los ojos. Starring Tom Cruise and Penelope Cruz.

I am very envious of the career that he has had. He was employed by Rolling Stone Magazine during the formative years and has written and directed some of the most memorable movies of all time.

The art of collaborating at work

2009-08-11T08:09:00.000-07:00

"All your strength is in union, all your danger is in discord" Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

In any company there are always challenges. Within a company there are different departments and divisions. Everyone is paid differently. Some employees are hourly, some employees are on salary. Depending on your job description and your level of experience determines your pay. With that said, the challenges of any company always need to be addressed and everyone needs to be on the same page to tackle these challenges.

These challenges require teamwork. The quality that is needed the most between employees and departments amid great pressures and challenges is collaboration. In John Maxwell's "The 17 Essential Qualities of a Team Player,"(Nelson Publishers 2002) Maxwell mentions that becoming a collaborative team player requires a change in focus in four areas:

Perception: See teammates as collaborators, not competitors- If you look at any team you can see the potential for competition. To collaborative team members, completing one another is more important that competing with one another. Everybody is perceived as a unit working together.

Attitude: Be supportive, not suspicious of teammates- People are preoccupied with looking out for their own interests that they are naturally suspicious of just about everyone including their own teammates. Adapt the mind-set where you complete rather than compete.

Focus: Concentrate on the team, not yourself-Where you focus your attention says a lot about whether you compete with others or complete them. "True progress in any field is a relay race and not a single event."

Results: Create victories through multiplication-When you work together with your teammates you can do remarkable things.If you work alone you leave a lot of victories on the table. Collaboration has a multiplying effect on everything you do because it releases and harness your skills but also those skills of everyone on the team.

So the question remains, Are you a collaborative team player? If so, you carry these traits.

You think win-win-win- When you collaborate with others you win, they win and the team wins.

Complement others-Get with someone who has strengths in your area of weakness and vice versa.

Take yourself out of the picture-Get into the habit of what is best for the team.

I think Henry Wadsworth Longfellow's quote " All your strength is in union, all of your danger is in discord," says that we all need to work together for the common good of the company otherwise everything will fall apart.

The importance of reading books as a family

2009-08-09T13:01:00.000-07:00

My wife loves to read books. She has read several books since we have been married. She has read all the Harry Potter, Twilight, and True Blood books. She has read countless vampire ,wizard and romance book available. She is setting a good example for all of my daughters. I'm not talking about the subject matter because I really don't care about the vampires or wizards. She is setting a example by her love of reading.

I think it is great that we read as a family. I like to read different books too. I read more business and motivational books. Me and my wife try to read a book to our kids every night before bedtime. We take them to the library once a week to check out books. My kids love hanging out at the library.

I know with the summer months reading is the last thing that the kids are interested in. Kids are more interested in swimming and other things. I know families are getting away from reading. Parents need to make their kids read and turn off the television. Kids can get stuck watching television all day if you let them.

According to Jim Trelease author of the New York Times best seller , The read aloud handbook, he lists 10 facts that parents should know about reading:

Reading is the most important subject in school.

Across the world, children that read the most read the best.

Humans are pleasure seekers. We do things over and over again if we like it. So if you want your kids to read more often, make sure they love it more than they hate it. Keep reading .

Read aloud to them even as infants.

Listening comprehension comes before reading comprehension.

Children usually read on one level and listen on a higher level.

Research shows that children who come from homes with the most print-books, magazines and newspapers have the highest reading scores.

There is a strong connection between over viewing of television by children and under- achieving of school.

Have kids watch closed captioning television.

Have kids listen to audio books.

I think I have the writing part covered for my kids. I am working with my younger kids on basic writing skills . A journal is the best place to start for young kids. I have encouraged my older ones to start a blog, They don't have to go public with it. They can keep it a private blog. Math I don't mess with I leave that to my wife!

Getting the kids ready for back to school

2009-08-05T19:13:00.000-07:00

School is around the corner. The summer vacations are just about over. Let the fun begin. The necessary back to school shots have been taken care of at the doctors offices. If you are like most parents you have been searching for the cheapest school supplies around. Don't bother looking for unnecessary school supplies. My wife just buys the necessary items on the back to school list. No more, no less.

Most parents are trying to get the back to school clothes too. Looking for the elusive back to school sales. With tax free weekend comming up the stores are sure to be jam packed. I have not figured out if I like the tax free weekends. I like the savings but I don't like the crowds. (So don't look for me there!)

There is also the lunch situation. Are my kids taking lunch or are they buying lunch? I am not sure what to think about the cafeteria. You keep putting money into their lunch accounts and they go through those accounts so fast.

There is also the after school situation. Are they going to day care or are they going to be parent pickup?If they are parent pickup it is better to park your car and get down and wait. You could be sitting in the car quite awhile if you decide to wait in the car for your kids. If they are after school care , can you make it before 6:30 pm to pick them up?

There is also the issue of sending kids with additional money for spirit t-shirts, PTA and field trips. Let's not forget about money for the constant barrage of Scholastic books and book fairs.

Here we go again!

Coffee anyone?

2009-08-04T15:00:00.000-07:00

I am now realizing the importance of coffee in my life. I would have to say that within the last 5 years my love of coffee has really taken off. I usually have my wife set the timer on the coffee pot about 7am every morning. Usually the aroma of the coffee makes its way up the the staircase to the master bedroom where it reaches my nose. Ah, the smell of fresh roasted coffee!

I have a cool coffee travel mug that I take with me every morning. It is the right size. Not too big not to little. I don't drink it black. I'm not that brave. I usually have some type of coffee creamer in it. My wife also has a travel coffee mug. We have all kinds of travel coffee mugs. I also have coffee at work. I know some companies are cutting back with expenses and sometimes coffee does not survive the budget cut.

It's funny that that once we reach a certain age a bell goes off in our head. Once that bell goes off ,all of a sudden we like coffee! Coffee is universal. Coffee can be found all over the planet. Coffee goes well with meetings. Coffee goes well in the classroom. Coffee goes well with breakfast , lunch and desert. Coffee goes well in the car. I was wondering are there any health benefits to coffee? I wonder sometimes if we know for sure. We hear that sometimes there are health benefits. We hear that sometimes there are risks involved with coffee. It is like nobody can decide. So I decided I to find out some answers.

There are several websites that state the following:

Coffee may prevent and treat Alzheimer's
Coffee may help with diabetes
Coffee may help with skin cancer
Coffee helps people with Hepatitis C

I will try and remember these things when I am drinking my next cup of coffee. Whatever the case may be, not only does coffee smell wonderful, there are also health benefits. I hope I never run across a article or website that states coffee is now bad for you. I cannot do without my coffee.

Shameless plug: I love McDonald's coffee.

Facebook comes in handy for large families (like mine)

2009-08-02T13:51:00.000-07:00

I have a large family. I come from a family of six boys(including me) and three girls. We all have busy lives. We all work, we all have kids that are active. There are a lot of ways to communicate these days. You can pick up the landline. You can use your cell phone. You can text. You can send an email. You can instant message.You can also Facebook.

I have a basic Palm phone. It came with the Facebook application in it already. All of my brothers and sisters have some type of phone that gets Facebook. I find it easy to talk to them anytime of the day. They can send me a message through Facebook, they can chat with me. I can also write on their wall and they can comment later.

I also find it useful when it comes to business clients or contacting my field rep. It is good because business clients can get a glimpse into my family life. It can be as basic or personal as someone wants it to be. I know that my Facebook is personal. At my age I don't have anything to hide. It has some pictures of my family. It also has pictures of my large extended family.

Facebook has some fun applications too. You can send one of your Facebook friends a drink, you can join Mafia wars with them, you can take tons of quizzes. I took a Star Trek quiz which was quite entertaining.

How old does one person have to be to have a Facebook account? I don't know. I know my sixth grader has asked me for one. I think she is a bit too young for Facebook. I would not be surprised if my mom and dad ask me to start a Facebook account for them.

I will see you guys. I am going to Facebook now.

“Childhood is the most beautiful of all seasons.”Author Unknown

2009-08-01T19:57:00.000-07:00

I miss my childhood. I believe I had a normal childhood. Growing up in a family of nine, how normal can that be? I am one of six brothers and three sisters. Growing up in the late 1960’s and the 1970’s, things were really simple back then. We all played sports. I played baseball and basketball. I really did not have a brother close to my age. I was either too young or too old to hang out with anyone that is with the exception of my sister Rosie.

We were close in age. We were in the middle of the pack. We did everything together. She was my partner in crime. While my big brothers were out conquering the football fields me and my sister Rosie were up to no good. I guess you could say we were both the middle children. Poor thing, she was usually at the end of my practical jokes gone awry. I remember one summer when I accidentally set her hair on fire. I am not sure why or how that happened. I was not playing with matches like every other kid out there. I think what happened is that I did the evil brother thing and threw a “black cat” firecracker at her and somehow it magically ended up near her head thus causing her hair to catch fire. Too see her eyes’ tearing up was heartbreaking even as a mean kid. Our mom rapidly put the fire out.

I remember another incident we actually teamed up to set an empty lot next to our house on fire. I am not sure if it was due to fireworks or not. This one I believe can be attributed to matches. To see that empty lot next door in flames was a sight to see even for a little boy. I remember running to my room and hiding from the world at that point. I think what I was really doing was hiding from the sounds of the fire department. That was scary enough. Something even scarier as a kid is waiting for your dad to get home after you have done something drastically wrong. Just the anticipation of waiting for your dad to get home and give you the worst spanking on the planet was enough for a kid to sign up in the witness protection program. My sister Rosie was just as scared hiding under the blanket in her room.

For some odd reason I used to like to throw rocks as a kid. Find me one kid who does not like to throw a good rock. I stumbled across the best rock in the neighborhood one day. I threw it at a neighbor who was sitting on top of his mother’s station wagon. Sure enough the back window splattered into a million pieces.

That was over thirty years ago. To this day me and my sister are still close. She is not married and does not have any children but she still treats my children as her own. She still comes over for dinner and helps to pick up my kids from school. My kids occasionally play jokes on her and we both smile at each other. I think we talk almost every day. We give each other advice on different subjects from money to relationships. Occasionally we get that gleam in each other’s eyes. That gleam that means someone is going to get a prank pulled on them.

I am going to hide the matches from my kids as far up in the kitchen cabinets as I can.

Immigration building a bridge to a family's future

2009-08-01T19:39:00.000-07:00

In every conceivable manner, the family is link to our past, bridge to our future.-Alex Haley

I wanted to thanks my great grandparents for crossing the border into Laredo Texas in 1906. I know it was not easy leaving everything behind in central Mexico.They were looking for a better life here in the United States. What they did on that hot day in 1906 had a ripple effect in time that could have never been imagined. Little did my great grandfather know how powerful his walk across the border would be. My grandparent's were carried over the border as babies by their parents.

My grandparent's were very hard workers. They had a great work ethic.My grandfather was a route salesman delivering sweet bread or "pan dulce" for a local Mexican bakery. My grandmother used to shell pecans. She also worked as a maid and picked cotton with my dad, who as a boy at the time. Nothing was handed to them. Their house was located in the barrio of San Antonio. They rented the house of course. My grandmother made all the necessary repairs to the house. While my grandfather worked she would upholster the furniture, fix sinks and toilets and paint the house.

My dad was also a hard worker. He was dedicated to his family. He did everything from a produce street salesman, to a steel worker. From a parking garage attendant to a bus driver. He finished his work career as a director of building operations for the local utility company. My mother worked a for the phone company for a bit. She became a stay at home mom. I was one of nine kids. Nothing was handed to us either. We were poor growing up but as kids we don't know what social class we belong to. We did not know if we were rich or poor.

I know it would not be easy for my great grandparents to cross into Texas today. It would be very difficult. The United States border patrol is extremely active. They are are high tech with surveillance cameras everywhere. The Texas Governor Rick Perry has committed 1,000 troops and 135 million for border security. This will help curb the drug cartels from spilling into Texas. This will also be done with the help of aerial drones, high tech cameras and the controversial border fence. I know that the U.S does trading with Mexico and Canada with the North American Free Trade Alliance (NAFTA). This has been good for all three countries.

I am sure that if my great grandparents or grandparents were alive today, they would see the end result of their sweat, strain and hardships. They would see that all of my brother's and sisters are professionals here in Texas. We are all operating nine different households. We have a lot of professions covered. We are bankers, policemen, teachers, and insurance adjusters. By the time we all retire , we would have contributed millions of dollars in taxes. We exercise our right to vote. With the economy things have not been easy for my brothers and sisters but we are surviving.

I am the end result of that border crossing in 1906. My brothers and sisters and all of our families are the rewards. I hope that I am making my great grandparents and grandparents proud.

Closing of my elementary school

2009-07-31T20:34:00.000-07:00

I heard on this news this past week that my elementary school is targeted to be shut down. I am saddened by this news. I attended Mary F. Huppertz located on the westside of San Antonio. I know from experience that if a school is targeted to be shut down, there is nothing that can be done. It is a victim of the numbers game. I fought hard to keep my daughter's pre-school Holy Rosary Catholic school open. That school was located next to St. Mary's University where I attended college.

I fought the good fight. I wrote articles why the school should be kept open. I was interviewed by the St. Mary's University Rattler newspaper. I met with the principle. I was fighting to keep the school open for my babies. I had seen the results in my older kids. I had planned on sending all of my kids to pre-school there. The school closed a few years ago. Now my elementary school is next!

As seen in the media reports the San Antonio Independent school district is not immune to the economic problems facing all Americans. The school district is trying to consolidate some schools and close others. The problem is that a lot of inner city schools are being forgotten about. Young families are moving out of the inner city and into the suburbs. The population of the inner city is becoming a population of senior citizens. There is no growth . All of the growth is outside of loop 1604. They inner city therefore becomes forgotten.

I am sad to see Huppertz closing. I still remember the principle Mrs. Anderson. I remember my P.E Coach Mr. Brown. I have fond memories of my 1st and 2nd grade teachers Mrs.Neely and Mrs. Passmore. I remember my 3rd grade teacher Mrs.Hill (My ears still hurt from my ears getting pulled. Was that legal?) I was in choir with Mrs Moczygamba. I remember the playground and the cafeteria. I lived close enough that I was able to walk home after school.

All of these teachers had a chance to mold me into the person that I am today. I will always carry the memories of this school with me forever.

I miss my lunchbox!

Do kids know the value of hard work?

2009-07-31T19:27:00.000-07:00

My dad gave me a book a couple of years ago for Christmas. When I unwrapped it I was pleasantly surprised to find out that it was his memoirs. In one of his chapters he discusses how his mother used to take him as a boy to the cotton fields of South Texas. There my dad and his mother picked rows and rows of cotton. They would get picked up each morning and ride in the back of a pick up truck and then get dropped off at their destination.

Picking cotton was back-breaking work according to my dad. He would have to carry around a bag of cotton that almost weighed as much as him. It really got me thinking how spoiled some of us are. I feel guilty working in an air conditioned office. I have been working in and out of different offices for the past 15 years. I often work bell to bell. That is nothing compared to doing hard labor in the hot South Texas cotton fields. I know a lot of Americans work outdoors as laborers. It also got me thinking about how some kids don't know the value of hard work. How some kids expect everything to be handed to them.

Do the kids of today know the value of hard work? I'm not sure. I know if my kids want something they have to earn it. My kids can earn money by bringing home good grades and by also helping around the house. We have been very fortunate, my kids have been bringing home good grades every grading period. They earn a allowance from getting good grades. It is enough to get the things that they need.

There are several things that we can do to teach our kids a good work ethic. According to the website Xomba there are 7 tips for teaching a good work ethic:

Homework- Since homework is a daily task, strive to have your child complete all of it, including the studying (which for some unknown reason, kids nowadays do not consider as "homework"). Explain that finishing the work completely in a reasonable amount of time leaves them free to pursue other interests.
Give them reasonable chores- As soon as your child is able, let them participate. Most kids love to clean. More than anything, they love to please their parents. Let your children feel this sense of accomplishment and participation on a regular basis.
Take your child to your own work.-Parents have to work. Try taking your child to your own work. Explain that you have to report there during certain hours and exactly what you do each day. Not only does this let your child know were you spend your days, it also brings a better appreciation for the hard work of parents. This is a great time to explain that work is a part of every day, just like eating, sleeping and playing.
Praise successes.-Nothing keeps a child coming back for more than praise from Mom and Dad. Thank-you for a job well-done and big hugs for hard work are the key to encouraging your child to continue trying to please you. Praise builds up their self-esteem and encourages them to continue striving to do their best.
Fair share-Make sure you provide a reasonable amount of tasks in relation to other family members, especially other children. The lesson from regular tasks is not to build resentment. It's to encourage your child to complete a task from start to finish.
Routine-You might feel varying the weekly or monthly routine of tasks for your child is great. But check with your child first. Some kids just don't care for change very much. Kids like familiarity and it helps them to know exactly what parents expect from them.
Have your child choose his work- Including a child in planning and doling out the family chores helps build their sense of responsibility. The get to have an active role in the home. This empowers them to look more positively at their own tasks and strive to complete them well.

Special thanks to all of you!

2009-07-29T20:01:00.000-07:00

Just wanted to take a minute to thank everyone. Thanks for the words of encouragement. Thank you for taking a few minutes out of your busy day to read my posts. With a blog it it gives you the liberty to write about anything. With a blog you will find your own voice and style. The reader will see who you are. You can see who I am with mine. I am in charge. I don't have to answer to anyone. I guess I do have to answer to my wife when she says to shut down the computer and get to bed.

Thanks to all of my daughters for providing the inspiration for some of my posts. I also need to thank my brothers, sisters and parents. With a huge extended family there are stories galore to write about. I encourage everyone to start a blog. We all have a story to tell. I'm sure some of you guys have more to say than I do. If you start a blog it just needs to stay current. Once or twice a week is fine. I just like to unwind after work and just type away.

Once you start a blog and become really dedicated, it is addicting. Of course you should not forget about your family and just keep to your blogs. I usually give myself about 30-45 minutes once the kids are asleep. This way I give my daughters my full attention when I get home from work. I then turn off the computer and give my wife attention (behave!).

I hope to cover more issues that will keep you guys interested. If you create a blog, let me know I would love to follow yours.

I'm a big fan of Calvin and Hobbs (Special thanks to Bill Watterson)

Till next time